Achieving a State of Consideration
--by Jonathan Shaver
“If you are not confused, you are not paying attention.” Tom Peters, author of
In Search of Excellence was admonishing listeners in a recent interview to educate ourselves on the alternatives and to test our assumptions. It’s not good to be so adamantly certain about our viewpoint.
This conversation reminds me of many conversations I have with individuals who are concerned about being in this state of confusion.
- “How much of my old role should I delegate as I take on new responsibilities?”
- “I’m worried that I am not being strict enough with my kids.”
- “Am I spending enough time/too much time doing long term planning?”
- “I feel like I need to be in these meetings, but I spend so much time in these meetings.”
- “I am not sure which political party I want to follow.”
- “What does my spouse mean when he says that?”
- “Should we invest more in this research project or pull back."
- “What contribution can I make to my work, to the world?”
First, let’s start by giving ourselves a break. Being confused or struggling with an issue means that at least we are aware that it
is an issue. And awareness is a good place to be. Being totally unaware of the potential issue means that we are probably working blind. Assuming that its not an issue means we are probably working blind
. Working blind means we are probably making all kinds of errors because we are totally unaware of any alternative perspectives except the one in our head. While one situation is unconscious and the other a conscious choice, the result is the same.
A mistake or negative feedback is too often how we learn about our blind spots. Actively pursing blind spots through reading, networking with peers, friends, a mentor, a coach, spending time thinking are more productive ways to uncover the blind spots.
When we get to a state of confusion—“Do I turn left or right—maybe straight or stay right here?” then we are going through the good space. This state of confusion is an indicator that we are considering the alternatives. Yes, I am saying to deliberately put ourselves into a state of confusion. Do we want to go through life having never considered the alternatives?
The goal of struggling with issues is not to achieve clarity—too much clarity makes us
blind. Struggling with the issues is how we learn. I call continuous struggle a “considered state”. In a considered state we maintain a constant awareness of the alternatives, of the impacts of our decisions, but we have enough clarity to move forward.
Consideration is not an excuse for not acting. What bothers most people about moving into a state of confusion is the fear that it slows or stops us from taking action. For some people and for some topics moving out of confusion is difficult. This should not stop us from broadening our perspective. To take action we do not need to move from a state confusion to a state of clarity, we need only move from a state of confusion to a state of consideration.