“‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.†- Isaiah 41:9b-10
I am too assertive. I am too passive.
I am too contemporary. I am too traditional.
I am too transparent. I am too private.
I say yes too often. I say no too often.
I’m not gifted at music. I’m not gifted as a teacher.
I don't feel qualified for the tasks assigned me.
I am not a perfect pastor’s wife.
People’s words keep me up at night. Are their expectations of me fair? What do they think of me? Maybe I’m not a good pastor’s wife? So often my confidence is in myself and how others view me. Once that is shaken, I find my legs shaky in front of others, I over-analyze words that are said or left unsaid, and my insecurities paralyze me. To build false confidence, I make decisions to please men (and women!) and not necessarily my Lord.
This is serving in fear and not in freedom. Fear of being hurt. Fear of not being accepted. Fear of losing control.
“‘You are my servant’; I have chosen you and have not rejected you. So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.†- Isaiah 41:9b-10
As sinful women in a sinful world it is impossible to be perfect or please everyone. As forgiven women part of a forgiven church we are unified by God’s grace. When we share his grace with others (and let’s not forget ourselves) God is glorified.
“But he said to me, "My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness." Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ's power may rest on me.†- 2 Corinthians 12:9
Jesus is powerful - but not in ways others expect. He came to this earth as a servant. He grew up in a common place. He didn’t strive to be an earthly political figure. He certainly was not what the Jewish leaders had in mind for their Savior. Jesus chose to not come down from the cross to prove his divinity. He chose to die in full weakness and submission to God’s will. That perceived weakness in him was actually power.
Jesus’ calling was to be perfect and he was faithful even to laying down his life for those he loves. And when those insecurities flare up I hope you and I cling to the truth that the one who made us - the one who knows all our sin - the one who knows all our weaknesses - loves us still.
Jesus loves us.
Jesus accepts us.
Jesus fulfills us.
Jesus gives us purpose.
Jesus has formed our unique character, our talents, and yes - even uses our weaknesses to bless His kingdom.
Our confidence isn’t in ourselves. We are weak! Our confidence is in the Savior on the cross. He is powerful! And the message of the cross is where we find freedom to serve! We are no longer slaves to sin or self righteousness.
“Not that we are competent in ourselves to claim anything for ourselves, but our competence comes from God.†- 2 Corinthians 3:5
Our identity as a pastor’s wife is not a mold to fit into.
Our identity as a pastor’s wife - like all believers - is Jesus.
“In him and through faith in him we may approach God with freedom and confidence.†- Ephesians 3:12
We are forgiven!
Ask the Lord
Dear God,
You have called me to be your own. I am no longer a slave but your daughter. You deliver me from fear. I confess Lord that my insecurities begin to pile up when my thoughts are focused on myself. I ask that in my church, my home, and in my community I walk with a firm step - not because of my reputation - but because of yours. When doubt and guilt start to creep up in my thoughts Lord, please take my thoughts captive to Christ and give me yours. In Jesus‘ name I pray, Amen.
My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus' blood and righteousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus' name.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.
"My Hope is Built on Nothing Less" by Edward Mote, 1797-1874
