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Training With Dr. Ellen

March 2016


Dear Friend,

Spring is arriving here in New England, and it’s my all-time favorite season.  I’m an avid gardener, and itching to get planting. Early spring is a time of rebirth, rejuvenation, and all that the metaphor of the garden entails.  The soil becomes soft and warm, and new life emerges.  I’m grateful for all the spring brings!





 
Feature Article

 

What Does “Listening” Really Mean?
 

When I teach MI, whether it’s a workshop or lecture setting, I emphasize the central concept of listening.  The skills involved are simple, but not always easy.  In my training in MI, I was taught that there are 2 skills involved, being able to listen, and letting the other person know you that heard.  Here I am writing about the ability to listen; really listen to what the other person says and means.


Listening is not just “hearing” the words the other person says.  There are many other elements to really getting what they mean.  The Chinese characters that make up the verb “to listen” include a number of elements that really tell the story.

  • Ear = What you use to listen (hear)
    • This is the physical hearing what the other person says.
  • King = Pay attention as if the other person were king.
    • Really listen, “between the lines”.  Can you tell or guess at what the person really means?
  • Ten and Eye = Be observant as if you had ten eyes.
    • Part of listening is carefully observing the other’s body language and tone of voice.
  • One = Listen with individual attention.
    • You are paying attention ONLY to the person you are talking to, your client.
  • Heart = Listen also with your heart (in addition to ear and eye)

 
The listening skills are developed with practice. It’s simple but not easy!

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Where is
Dr. Ellen?

  • March 28: Lecture at Northeastern University, “Eating Disorders and Motivational Interviewing”, Boston, MA
  • April 21: Motivational Interviewing Workshop for the North Dakota Diabetes Summit, Bismark, ND
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Mini-Book Review
by Dr. Ellen Glovsky



Second Wind

 by Dr. Bill Thomas

 

This book really impressed with ideas that are new to me.  It discusses the idea that there are three stages of life, childhood, adulthood, and “elderhood”.  Our culture worships youth, and as such ignores people as they age.  Or worse, people feel that must remain “young” in appearance, attitude and activity.  Dr. Thomas’ idea is that the rush, pressure to “be productive”, and to stay young has done a great disservice to people as they age.  He believes that older people have much to contribute to society, and that aging is not a death sentence.  He outlines a way of living that celebrates aging and avoids trying to stay young. Dr. Thomas is a gerontologist, a doctor who takes care of old people. 


To purchase this book on Amazon click here

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MI Practice Tip

Listening Skills
 
I find my listening skills begin with the time before I meet with the client.  As I am anticipating the meeting, I sit quietly and calm my mind, thinking about the focus on the person with whom I will be speaking.  I try to clear my mind of other, extraneous thoughts, and make a decision to pay close attention to the conversation.  This helps me to focus on just that person, and really sharpens my listening skills.

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New publication from Dr. Ellen!

 

I listened to you!  Many of my readers and students have told me they would love to have a concise description of the spirit and technique of MI.  I’m happy to announce a new publication that fills the bill, Motivational Interviewing: The Basics.

This beautifully printed color booklet describes the spirit and technique of MI, especially as it relates to diet, nutrition, and weight issues.  This 33-page booklet offers an excellent primer or refresher on MI.  Whether you are a newcomer to the ideas of MI or a seasoned MI clinician, you will find this publication to be an important part of your professional library.

I am offering 2 versions:  a digital download for $3.99 and a spiral paperback for $7.99, which includes the shipping cost. I will be more than pleased to sign the paperback copies upon request. You can purchase this beautiful book on my website at this link http://bit.ly/MITheBasics
or on Amazon here

For a more detailed look at MI, see my book, Wellness, Not Weight: Health At Every Size and Motivational Interviewinghttp://wellnessnotweight.org/
 




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