How Do You Stop a Negative Thinking Loop? (Part 1)
Have you ever found yourself stuck in a negative thinking loop and can't seem to get out of it? Perhaps something along the lines of, “This sucks, I'm an idiot. I never get it right, everything's always a struggle. I'll never get over this situation...” etc. etc., adnauseum. I come across this issue a lot in my work with clients. A negative thinking loop can create feelings of anxiety, dread, shame, anger...basically it can make you feel like crap about yourself and your life. And when you feel like crap, what do you end up creating? More crap!
So what else is possible? Well, that very question is a great place to start. Recognizing that you're stuck in that loop is the first step to changing it. “Universe, please show me what's beyond this.” That whole ask and you shall receive thing really does work. Asking a question like “what else is possible?” or “what's beyond this?” isn't about getting an answer to the question. You may, in fact, get an awareness of something but that isn't the point; the point is that with your question you are putting in a request to the universe that you'd like something different. It opens you up to the possibility of a different perspective, a different reality. It's a request to get out of the box in which you've locked yourself. And as soon as you ask the question, the quantum entanglements start working to actualize your request.
Another great question to ask along these lines is, “What's right about this that I'm not getting?” or “What's right about me that I'm not getting?” I love these questions because they pull you out of the loop and get you to perceive the situation from a different angle. What if what you're experiencing right now is necessary in the process of creating a change? What if it has to get “worse” before it gets better? We often talk about the “healing crisis” that can occur when someone is getting a new treatment for a medical condition, for example, when the treatment causes a reaction in the body that feels yucky at first but then gets better as the body gets healthier.
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