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TB Talks: Your June Newletter
Hints & Tips to help you deal with Anxiety, Depression & Stress.
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New Beginnings

 

We all face times when we’re trying to make a change. Sometimes it’s because our external world has forced it on us, health, work, family and so on. Other times it’s by choice because we think it’s a good thing to do. And yet, despite this, our unconscious minds try to sabotage the change, making us feel anxious, fearful and worried.

The June issue looks at the difficulties of making changes. You’ll find some useful tips to help you past this uncertainty and help convince your unconscious mind to work for you, rather than against you.

  • Why is change so hard?
  • Hints & Tips to help
  • Exercises to manage emotion
So Why Are We Scared Of Change? 

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Just breathe. Relax.
Let anxiety flow away
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Sometimes you just need to start. Overcome Procrastination with this easy to use trick.
Reduce anxious thoughts with Mindfulness.
Here's a free Mindfulness mp3

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So why are we scared of change?

Change is scary. It’s often easier to wait before making the change, a secret part of our minds hoping that the circumstance or desire to change will move on and we can carry on as before. Even if we know that change would benefit us, there’s still a part that would rather we carried on as we are.

But why? Surely if a change really is for the better, then we’d just find the motivation to do it. Wouldn’t we?
 
It turns out that mostly, we wouldn’t.
 
This is the topic of a recent blog post. Click to find out more: Change. The Anxiety
 

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The Two Minute Rule


Sometimes, reluctance to change just boils down to procrastination. It would all be OK if only you’d just knuckle down and do it. But somehow there’s always something else that’s way more important in the moment, pairing up socks, social media, reading Newsletters (except this one, of course). They all becoming surprisingly attractive in the face of doing something constructive.
 
This is a really easy way to work your way past pure procrastination:
 
It works by convincing your unconscious that you’re not actually intending to do anything major at all. It gets past the problem of beginnings.
 
Set out to only spend 2 minutes (and no longer) on whatever it is:
 
  • Listening to that meditation or hypnotherapy mp3,
  • Exercising
  • That report for work / college / uni
  • Preparing that healthy meal rather than getting a take-away 

Just do 2 minutes. Then stop.
 
It has 2 key benefits:
  1. You have already begun.
  2. It engages the Zeigarnik Effect (honestly!)
Back in 1927 Bluma Zeigarnik, a renowned Russian psychologist, discovered something intriguing. Human brains hate unfinished tasks. Your mind will actually try to get you to carry on and reach a natural break rather than just stop.
Remember the quiz show 'Who-Wants-To-Be-A-Millionaire?' and how Chris Tarrant kept on saying: "The correct answer .... Will be revealed after the break!" 
That's the Zeigarnik Effect in action. If he'd told you straight away, you might not have carried on watching.

 
Try it. It works 
 

‘7 – 11’ Breathing

 
This breathing technique produces a bodily response that lowers your anxiety in a very physical way.
  • It work by stimulating what is known as the Parasympathetic Nervous System, the opposite of 'Fight or Flight'
  • 7/11 breathing activates the body's natural 'Relaxation Response'.
  • Out-breaths decrease blood pressure, dilate your pupils and slow your heart rate – lowering emotional arousal in the process.
Practise 7/11 breathing daily. It lowers immediate emotional arousal and reduces your overall stress levels in the long term.
 
Here is how you do it, and it is as easy as it sounds: 
  1. Breathe in for a count of 7.
  2. Then breathe out for a count of 11.
Make sure you are doing Diaphragmatic Breathing: 
  1. your stomach moves out as you inhale
  2. your stomach moves in as you exhale.
If you find a count of 7 & 11 difficult, then you can change the count to breathing in for 5 and out for 8, or even in for 3 and out for 5 whatever suits you best, as long as the out-breath is longer than the in-breath.
 
Continue in this way for 5-10 minutes and enjoy the calming effect it will have on your mind and body. 7-11 breathing is also a good distraction technique, taking your mind off your immediate concerns.

To download a copy of this technique, click here: 7/11 Breathing



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