It's all in the feel.
 

Remember why you were attracted to partnership dancing instead of solo dancing? Most likely, it was because you either got to hold someone or you got to be held by someone.

Try not to lose sight of your initial inspiration. While it's important to be aware of your steps and your body and each other, it's just as important to let yourself go a little - especially for you ladies. Don't be so quick to "help" your gentleman by leading yourself.  Enjoy the ride and let him take the lead.

Next time you get on the floor with your partner, try this 30 second exercise to get in tune with each other. Simply hold hands and feel each other's energy. It might help to close your eyes.

Gentlemen, sway side to side or rock forward and back in a relaxed fashion and let your ladies know you are taking care of her but not man-handling her. Ladies, allow yourself to listen to the message your are being given through the directional movements of the man. Both of you should be present. Be aware of the feel of the other's hands. How are they holding you? What kind of tone are you being given? What kind of tone are you giving back? Are you there for each other? Each partner has a role and when the other knows that they are being supported, it will go a long way to strengthening the success of your partnership on the dance floor.

30 Seconds is all it takes at the top of every practice session. Try it out! I'm sure you will be impressed with the results over time.
Happy dancing!