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August 10, 2018

This week’s newsletter editor: Katel
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Two weeks ago, I stepped onto a stage for the first time.

Seven minutes later, I spilled white wine all over myself.

It happened during our live No, You Go-inspired show in Vancouver, as I was fumbling to pull my mic off the stand. My cheeks turned hot, my mouth went dry, and I started to feel exposed. But then I looked over at Sara and out to the crowd, and realized we were all laughing together. I also realized it was exactly what our show is about: being real, continuing to try if you stumble, and trusting the folks who have your back.

Public speaking isn’t something I’m particularly fond of or great at. There’s a good reason, I mean—I haven’t done it that much! I haven’t had a lot of practice or developed those muscles. Yet. For a very long time, I thought getting up in front of a group of people to talk would only ever feel like sweaty palms, a racing heart, and just trying to get through it.

But, in the span of exactly one week last month, I managed to get on stage to do a show, and I also co-presented a workshop to a room full of dozens of people. While I did both of these things with an amazing copilot (*ahem 👋 Sara), I wasn’t any less nervous. But I also wasn’t scared. I hadn’t expected for that to be the case, and I honestly didn’t think I’d be able to find a little comfort in that difference.

I still get nervous when I embark on something new or unknown—a podcast, speaking, being more visible with my work and life. I still get anxious about spending time outside of my comfort zone. But I’m not scared. I know I don’t have to be, as long as I trust myself and the badass women in my corner.

I’m going to practice my public speaking more, and I hope I get to do another live show (fuck, I actually really liked that). But I only feel confident enough to keep practicing and trying, because I know I won’t be alone.

Katel

Along with actually kinda being excited to get back on stage, I’m also pretty pumped about a few things coming up this fall:

Hyped

❤︎ To watch.

✥ It’s gotta be kismet that the new indie film, Skate Kitchen, comes out today. It’s about an introverted teenage skateboarder who befriends an all-girl, New York City-based skateboarding crew and navigates lots of teen-life stuff. Sign me UP. It’s writer/director Crystal Moselle’s first narrative feature—and I’m so excited, I might have to play hooky this afternoon to go see it.

❤︎ To read.

✥ Do you sometimes feel like Everything is Trash, But It’s Ok? So does Phoebe Robinson—that’s right, she’s got a *new* book coming out soon! And so does another one of our favorite folks—hey, there’s a theme here (badass women who have podcasts doing all sorts of great things...hmm). Abbi Jacobson’s new book, I Might Regret This: Essays, Drawings, Vulnerabilities, and Other Stuff is due out in October.

❤︎ To listen.

✥ Oh, HEY. Season 3 of No, You Go starts next week on August 14!

✥ If you haven’t fallen in love with the This Is Love podcast, you are truly missing out. Podcast host extraordinaire Phoebe Judge shares “stories of sacrifice, obsession, and the ways in which we bet everything on one another.” Catch up on Season 1 now, so you can be ready for Season 2 this fall!

❤︎ To stock up.

✥ Back-to-school season is upon us, so take advantage of those sales to stock up on a few things (you can even leave the test-taking anxiety behind). Asos has very cute and cool clothes that don’t cost a ton. I love that they celebrate lots of different body types and body positivity—and students save 10% until graduation. Need some new kicks for the fall? Toms has fun-as-ever styles and teachers enjoy 15% off sitewide. Fjall Raven backpacks are some of my favorite bags for traveling light, and adding a little bit of retro day-trip vibe to your life.

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Loved

Yesenia Perez-Cruz head shot

During our live show in Vancouver, we loved hearing from Yesenia Perez-Cruz about how she got comfortable with public speaking:

“It was probably about two years before I was like, ok, I figured out how to feel comfortable, and I know what my voice is. I think a lot of what I was doing before was comparing myself to other people. [And so] figuring out what worked for me, and what made me feel energized when I was on stage, helped me.”

Listen to Yesenia’s interview from the live show.

Faved

⭐️ Here’s what we’re reading this week: 

(1) You might have heard about Beyoncé’s historic Vogue cover by 23-year-old black photographer Tyler Mitchell—and even her “little FUPA” (if not, hit those links stat!). But don’t miss these eleven other women’s notes to their twenty-something selves also in Vogue this week. We especially love activist Brittany Packnett’s advice: “There is simply not enough time to pretend at a life not meant for you.”

(2) Black women’s equal pay day was on Tuesday—219 days into 2018. That’s how much longer a black woman has to work in the U.S. to earn what a white man earns in a year.

(3) Kathleen Turner believes luck fueled her career—but so did rage. “I’m fuckin’ angry, man,” she told Vulture in this fascinating interview. We get it.

(4) Jezebel’s Tracy Clark-Flory visits a “feminist” popup event replete with a ball pit filled with boobs and finds herself in a “candy-colored, effervescent, and very ‘gram-worthy dystopia.” (Boobs are still great, though, ok?)

(5) Also in the boobs department: if you’re drowning in ads from new-school bra companies, you’re not alone. Racked explores the “firehose of half-naked women” wearing some version of a bralette you’re probably seeing on Instagram. And over on Medium, Philly product designer Lauren Hallden asks, “Do men on Instagram contend with this many half-naked dudes and their butts all the time?

(6) Our fave Kate Wagner (creator of the amazing McMansion Hell blog) dissects our extremely non-fave Betsy DeVos’s ridiculous 22,000-square-foot vacation home—aka “an architectural cruise ship that ran aground in a tragic maritime accident caused by the intersecting conditions of wealth and bad taste.”

(7) Over in Politico, Moms Demand Action founder Shannon Watts shares how she built a 5-million member “army of angry moms and women” working against gun violence and for stricter gun legislation.

(8) We believe in science. Especially this science: data collected from 50,000 Europeans in all kinds of fields found that “increased work intensity was associated with reduced well-being and inferior work outcomes,” writes Katie Heaney. Her conclusion? “Trying too hard at work is bad for you.” (Fine, fine, we’ll take a break now!)

Noted

Listener pick: "Small Victories" Publishers Alison Diviney and Stephanie Palumbo

Photo of Alison Diviney and Stephanie Palumbo

This week’s pick comes by way of listener Stephanie Lin (ty ty!), who wrote in to tell us about her love for Alison and Stephanie’s “Small Victories” newsletter—and now we love it, too. It’s a weekly update “celebrating people-powered victories against the Trump administration’s agenda,” and it’s full of stories about cities canceling contracts with ICE, court cases decided in favor of immigrants, and rallies and protests of all sorts. What we especially love is that each edition ends with two things: a “gratitude journal” of stuff the authors are thankful for, and a song to inspire readers for the next week. It’s a huge pick-me-up, and a great way to keep up with the news without letting it get you down. Check out past issues here.

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