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Dear Friends,

Today I watched my time slip away and when I looked back on why, I realized that I had spent a large part of my day matchmaking. One friend needed help filling a job and I identified a great candidate. Another needed to be put in touch with someone at a school where I had friends. I love helping and connecting, yet today I realized that I could have done a far better job of protecting my boundaries. I should have done my urgent work first and helped out after that.

Only when we protect our time can we achieve work/life synergy.

MEDIA ON MY MIND

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This is chock full of great advice!

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Last week I met a mom at my child’s soccer game. When I asked her: “What do you do?” she responded, “I mostly stay home.” It is a safe bet that most people would not have asked a follow-up question, but I persisted. “What do you mean?” I asked. "Well, I teach an online course at xyz college.” "So you are a Professor?” I said. "Well kind of. But I am not teaching this semester." Then her 5-year-old daughter piped in “Mommy, you also write books.” “Well, I self-published a few children’s books,” the "mostly home" mom explained.

Let’s do an exercise and repeat this entire exchange and tell the same facts in a different light. I say “What do you do?” and the mom says “I am a professor and an author.” Mic drop.

This woman was teaching her child to diminish her own accomplishments. In a British study, half of women downplayed their accomplishments at work and less than a third of men did the same. The gender confidence gap is real and the least we can do is to stop the gap in our own families. If you won’t do it for yourself, do it for your kids. They are paying close attention.

How can you retell your own story? Channel the most confident person you know and ask yourself how they would talk about their accomplishments if they were in your shoes. There you go. Voila. Your new story. Now own it!

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