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From the desk of Mrs Helen Mills

Some recent research has coined the phrase ‘OVERparenting’. It means to be excessively involved in the day-to-day life of one's child or children, typically in the desire to shield them from difficult situations or help them succeed. In most cases, overparenting occurs with the best intentions and from a place of love and devotion to one’s children in response to the challenges that they face. It is often highly-motivated and loving parents who enthusiastically overparent. 
 
In the late 1960’s Dr Hiam Ginott used the phrase ‘helicopter parenting’ in his book entitled “Between parent and teenager”. Since then, this phrase has morphed into ‘lawnmower parenting’, ‘curling parenting’ and most recently, ‘drone parenting’. All these terms refer to parents hovering and smoothing the way for their children and hampering their child’s growth towards independence, all with good intentions.
The main driver behind overparenting, is fear. Fear for our children’s safety, their holistic well-being and their success and happiness in life. Research shows that there are many good, logical reasons for parents to overparent:
 
  • Parents are tough on each other and on themselves
  • Social media fuels parenting competition
  • We feel responsible for our children’s emotions
  • Economic pressures
  • Safety concerns
  • We perceive our children as ‘not strong enough to cope’
 
Overwhelmingly, parents are doing their best and beating themselves up because the feel that they fall short. Unfortunately, overparenting has many negative side-effects on our children in the long run:
  • Heightened anxiety
  • Over-sensitivity
  • Need for constant assurance
  • Avoidance of difficult situations
  • Poor socialisation skills
  • Lack of independence
Overparenting threatens our children’s psychological needs of being competent, autonomous and to connect to others. In the long run, we are stifling their growth towards becoming meaningful members of society.
 
So how do we counter-act this innate desire to save our children from every challenge they face?
The following 7 tactics are advised:
  1. Expect challenges to turn up
  2. Listen to your child without offering your own solutions
  3. Tolerate negative feelings (theirs and yours) instead of immediately acting to make them go away
  4. Model calm
  5. Raise a problem solver
  6. Foster autonomy
  7. Rethink what you praise
 
So let’s consider the way we parent and free ourselves from some of the pressures that society has laid upon us as parents. Let us not judge each other’s journeys and respect each other’s perspectives as we strive to raise our children to the best of our abilities.
PREP NEWS AND SPORT
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Johannesburg Mini Council 

Jack and Andrew have been busy collecting bottle tops and lids for the Johannesburg Mini Council.
If you have any lying around at home, please bring to school so we can add to their collection.
They can be brought to Miss Meirowitz’s classroom.
Thanking you in advance for your continued support.
 
Gauteng Canoe Union School League race # 2 – Germiston Lake

 
The Prep school canoeing team had a very successful race day yesterday at Germiston we came away with 24 medals.
 
We had a team of 16 Prep school boys who competed in a full day of racing with four different disciplines one long distance followed by three sprints 500m, 200m and 100m course.
 
A local competing boys school, The Ridge, have been on a massive recruitment drive of junior paddlers (32 boys) so the race is most certainly on for the Provincial title Top Primary school in the Gauteng school league and for the National title Top Boys Primary school in the National Sprint Regatta.
 
Our boys had to work hard for the much needed school league points for the St. David’s Marist Inanda prep school team.  It took a lot of courage and sheer determination.  Each boy did their school so proud. 
 
The team that competed on Sunday:
Grade Name Surname
0 JOSHUA FRIEDERICKSEN
3 AIDEN HONKE
3 AIDEN SMITS
3 CHRISTIAN FRIEDERICKSEN
3 ETHAN DUNCAN
3 KAI DAVIS
4 JESS WEBBER
4 LUKE WILSON
4 MATTHEW WILSON
5 MATTHEW COLE
6 ALEXANDER RENOUPREZ
6 JORDAN KLOPPER
6 THEO DREYER
6 TOME DOS SANTOS
7 LUKE WATKINS
7 NICHOLAS ERWEE


















Thank you Ms Johnstone for your positive leadership style and for being at the race and cheering the boys on. Thank you also to Meshak for all his help.
 
Thank you all for your support of the Prep School canoeing team.

Jodie
 
THANK YOU FOR YOUR GENEROSITY



Through the generous contribution from the St David’s community, a truck load of water was transported by ‘Gift of the Givers’ to Cape Town.  An additional R1000.00 was also donated.
MINI MARIST NEWSLETTER
PREP WEEK AHEAD

 
TODAY 1 March School closes for half term
PTA Social (Gr 6 &7)

Friday to Monday
2-5 March
HALF TERM

Tuesday
6 March
School reopens after half term

Wednesday
7 March
Grade 00-3 hearing tests

Thursday
8 March
Grade 00-3 hearing tests

Saturday
10 March
Family Mass
COLLEGE NEWS AND SPORT
College Electives:
Ballet, Krav Maga, Cooking, Superman Project,
Brain Gym, Robotech and Photography.
COLLEGE RESULTS
COLLEGE WEEK AHEAD
College Hockey Trials next week.
 
U15 Tuesday 6 March 15h00-17h00
U14 Wednesday 7 March 13h30-16h30
U16 Wednesday 7 March 16h30-17h30
        Friday 9 March 14h30-16h30
OPENS Thursday 8 March 15h00-17h00
 
St David’s at the World Choir Games
 
From 4 to 14 July 2018 Pretoria will be abuzz with what is possibly the biggest music event in the world, judged by the number of active participants. Close to 40 000 choir singers from around the globe will descend on Gauteng to showcase their abilities in and love for choral music in the World Choir Games.
It is the first time that this event will take place on African soil and in musical terms is nothing less than South Africa hosting the “World Cup” of choir. For eleven days some of the world’s most respected classical musicians will adjudicate a veritable fanfare of competitions and festival performances that run the full gamut of genres from pure classical, to contemporary musical theatre, to dance music, to traditional folklore.
We are very excited to announce that St David’s will be participating at this prestigious event. The Chamber Choir has proven itself to be a choir of excellence with a variety of exciting and trend-setting performances under its belt. Since its inception five years ago the choir has represented the school in a variety of ways. St David’s is now known for its annual Valentines tours to girls schools as well as for hosting the most entertaining combined events with the best choirs from around Johannesburg.
The 2018 Chamber Choir is working very hard to be ready for their performances at the Games. Their new repertoire is very exciting and is virtually bursting at the seams to be performed.
In addition to the above we are also so excited to announce that our warm-up performances for the Games will be hosted by none other than Richard Cock. He will join us in the Champagnat on the 24th and 25th of May for a showcase of our choir and band and will be conducting the choir for some of their pieces. Please keep your eyes open for this exciting event.
As our boys work towards this exceptional event, we would like to wish them well as they spend the countless amount of rehearsal hours putting their hearts on the line and making their vision for the choir come to life. Good luck, boys!
 

And so it begins...

The concept of a dad-specific talk has been one that I have been wanting to begin for some time, and it was incredible to have such a positive attendance from over 60 fathers for the first talk which took place on 20 February.
Click here to read more on DADitude events
REFLECTION

The Second Station: Jesus takes up his Cross.
“After mocking him, they stripped him of the purple cloak and put his own clothes on him.  Then they led him out to crucify him” Mk 15:20.
 
The soldiers who now mocked and humiliated Jesus treated him as less than human. To them, he was something to be tossed about, laughed at, and spit upon.  Isaiah had written about the Servant of the Lord, saying he would be despised, a man of sorrow, a lamb being led to slaughter Isaiah 52:13-53:13.
                After Jesus’ death,  many of his followers were also condemned and some were imprisoned or killed.  In our own day, men and women speak up for justice in the face of governments or corporations who seek only profit while destroying the environment or using people as pawns.  Those who seek such justice for the poor are often condemned, mocked and imprisoned; some are killed in the streets or at the altar.  They are Christ for us today.
Let us pray: Jesus, give us the courage to take your place in this trial, to take up our own cross and follow in your footsteps. May we be a voice for the poor and oppressed.  May we offer our lives for the sake of peace and justice.  We open our hearts to receive your grace, the grace that empowers us to love with tenderness in the face of violence and hatred. May that grace be all we need to become your hands and voice in today’s world. Amen.


Fr Teboho Matseke

 

LITURGICAL

4 March 2018 - 3rd Sunday of Lent

Ps 19: 8-11

Jn 2: 13-25
 
We appeal to parents to please adhere to the prescribed Drop-and-Go and No Parking/ Staff Parking rules, which are in place for the safety of our boys and for the smooth running of our school. 
We appreciate your understanding and co-operation.
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for more information please use the link below.
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For more information his website is craig@craigsmall.co.za and number is
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ST DAVID'S SWOP SHOP 2018
 
Day Open Close
Monday 07h15 08h30
Tuesday 13h00 15h00
Wednesday 07h15 08h30
Thursday 07h15 08h30
ST DAVID’S MARIST INANDA 2018 CALENDAR 
 
Term 1
Start Wednesday 17 January
Close Wednesday 11 April
Half Term CLOSE Thursday 1 March
RETURN Tuesday 6 March
School and Public Holidays  Wednesday 21 March (Human Rights Day)
 Friday 30 March (Good Friday)
 Monday 2 April (Family Day)
 
 
Term 2
Start Wednesday 2 May
Close Friday 3 August
Half Term CLOSE Friday 22 June
RETURN Monday 2 July
Public Holiday Saturday 16 June (Youth Day)
 
Term 3
Start  Tuesday  4 September
Close  Thursday 6 December
Half Term CLOSE Thursday 18 October
 
RETURN		  
Tuesday 23 October
Public Holiday Monday 24 September (Heritage Day)
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