Science hasn’t provided a definitive answer, but Tiffany Haddish’s story might provide one clue. After a tragic car accident rendered her mother incapable of taking care of 12-year old Tiffany and her younger siblings, the kids were separated and put into foster care. Tiffany would spend her teens being yanked without warning from one home to another—her belongings tossed into a trash bag for each move. Despite—or because of—her traumatic experiences, Tiffany made herself a promise. In a recent People magazine article Tiffany shared: “If I ever get power, I’m going to do something to make sure nobody else feels this way.” In 2017, Tiffany founded the She Ready Foundation to provide suitcases to foster kids on the move. She describes how, at 18 years old, she received an old Samsonite suitcase from her grandmother. “I felt like the most important person ever. Trash bags make kids feel like trash. Suitcases make them feel like travelers.”
Tiffany’s story points to one potential answer about why we take divergent paths—the serendipity of another person’s actions. Maybe someone sparks the connection required for us to make a choice and gain the competence that leads us to take the higher path—and thrive. Tiffany’s grandmother gave her more than a suitcase. She gave Tiffany the gift of choice, connection, and competence. I’ve focused my work on teaching leaders and individuals how to proactively shift from a lower to a higher path. Tiffany’s experience, though, points to how someone else can serendipitously help us create the choice, connection, and competence required for us to experience the optimal motivation required for thriving. Optimal motivation results in resilience. Grit. Psychological safety. Well-being. Positive and sustainable energy.
Tiffany’s story inspires me. I hope it might inspire you, too. What if we could be the person who by virtue of the way we live our life, helps create the choice, connection, and competence someone needs for taking the first step on the higher path? I ask you, why not be that person who sparks the best in someone else?
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