Copy
View this email in your browser
Hello <<First Name>>
Welcome to the December Newsletter.
I’d like to take this opportunity to sincerely thank you all for the privilege of working with you and assisting you to achieve your goals, whether it has been to Save your Marriage, or other personal challenges you have overcome in my coaching programs throughout 2019.

Every one of you are so much braver than you may think.  Many people are yet to even pick up the phone to seek the help they so desperately need.  So give yourself and your partner, a pat on the back, a six second kiss and express your gratitude to the other, to yourself and remember that, it’s the little steps you take each and every day, the consistent daily choices you make that add up to big changes by the year end.  Well done!
 
Thanks again to all of you who have placed your trust in me.  I love and appreciate being part of your journey.

As you begin to prepare for the festive season, try taking some time to journal about your own personal growth from the year.  Perhaps you can review your vision board from earlier in the year and identify the progress you have made by creating your accomplishments board. There’s nothing quite like reflecting on our achievements to build self-esteem and increase optimism.

Congratulate yourself, you deserve it! Take time for reflection and self care.

I am so very grateful to you all.
 
Have a safe and merry Christmas,

I look forward to seeing you in the New Year / decade.
 
Jacqueline

 

New Articles & Resources

Could part of good mental health be as simple as drinking enough water and staying hydrated? - Click here to learn about reducing the effects of stress and anxiety with good ol' water.
Stay Hydrated

Coping in Advance

Click here for my simple four step exercise to 'Cope in Advance'.
Having a go-to self soothing strategy up your sleeve is a wise idea this time of year.
Cope in advance and stay cool through work breakups and extended family Christmas catch-ups, that drag on just that bit too long...
 
Cope in Advance

Mindful Eating at Christmas

With thanks to Mark Robert Waldman

Did you know that if you spend only 60 seconds savoring one bite of food from your plate of food, you'll eat less and you'll enjoy it much more.


Try This:

First, gaze at the food on your plate and study it like a work of art. Choose one small morsel of something interesting - something that you want to taste in a brand new way.

Pick it up and gaze at it (you'll see features you never noticed before). Hold it under your nose and breathe deeply (you detect subtle odors you never smelled before). Brush it across your lips and notice the textures you've never felt before.

NOW, THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP: Put the morsel in your mouth and hold it on your tongue for 20 seconds without chewing. You'll be amazed at all the flavors you never tasted (yes, most of the time we are eating our memories of what something tasted like in the past!).

Finally, notice how satiated you feel!
Mindfully savour the flavour this Christmas and avoid the afternoon slump
(or 2 day blow out! )

Now for a Christmas poem I just had to include...

also by Mark Waldman

'Twas the night of Thanksgiving, and all through my brain My neurons were hungry, they drove me insane.
 The dendrites were firing near memories of food, And my axons were screaming, “It all smells so goooood!

” My prefrontal lobes imagined the feast, It seemed so darned real, it made my knees weak. My commitment to diet turned off my grey matter And my motor cortex made me run with a clatter.
I flew like a flash, through the kitchen I burst, ‘Cause my limbic emotions were fearing the worst.

But the cupboards I opened were clearly not bare. I need not have worried, for the fridge was still there.
But my doubting amygdala would not quiet down, For the ice cream I hid just couldn’t be found.

No cookies or candies, no pastries or pie, So my cortex yelled out, “I’m going to die!”
Past promises made were about to be broken, Ignored and forgotten, and surely not spoken.

My urges had won, I suffered defeat, So I laid out the goodies and sat down to eat.
Then something occurred inside of my brain, And a miniature seizure made me refrain.

“What’s happening?” I thought, as I gazed at my meal. “This shouldn’t be part of my impulsive deal!”
I wanted to gorge, I wanted to binge. But those damned neurotransmitters made me unhinged.

“Slow down and observe,” they whispered and pleaded. I do not know why, but I suddenly heeded.
I gazed at my plate. I studied my food. It really was pretty, it perked up my mood.

If I gobbled it down, just think what I’d miss: The colors, the textures, each moment of bliss!
The action potentials were lively and quick, And I knew in a moment how not to be tricked.

I focused intently, and I became One With each bite of food – it really was fun!
My senses were heightened, the flavors were great, And I nibbled for hours from one tiny plate.

 "Now, taters! Now, gravy! A savory French fry! Some stuffing and turkey! My god, pumpkin pie!”
I watched as my craving just faded away With each tiny bite of my mindful buffet.
And then, in a twinkling, I felt happy and sated. I stayed with my diet! I’m deeply elated.

To the pit of my tummy! To the top of my brain! I released my depression, anxiety, and blame.
The judgments were missing. The critic was gone. And the stresses gave way to one…. GIANT….uh…yawn!

My eyes -- how they twinkled! My neurons turned merry! And I finished my meal with my favorite bing cherry!
My face looked down on my receding belly, That no longer shook like a bowlful of jelly.

I used to be Santa, but now I’m an elf, And I decided right then to be kind to myself.
Less Sugar. Less Pasta, more Veggies for me, But I need not give up my chocolate ice cream.

I cleaned up the kitchen and gave a loud whistle, As my critical voice shrank down to a thistle.
Now I no longer fear the holiday bloats, ‘Cause my hungry old neurons have new myelin coats.

I will sleep like a baby each time I recite: "Mindful Eating to all, and to all a good night!"

A Fresh Start in 2020

If you missed last months newsletter, be sure to check out the 'get set for 2020' post, where I round up and share key strategies and ideas to help you have a fresh start to 2020.

Take a couple of hours as the year winds down to reflect and see what your vision for 2020 and beyond looks like.

For couples, talking about your vision and future is a great way to strengthen your 'relationship house'. Here's how:
  • Builds 'rituals of connection'
  • Strengthens love maps (knowing each others world)
  • Develops shared values, and
  • Helps each other achieve life long dreams
As you talk through your vision and ideas, it's a good opportunity to practice Deep Communication.
That's it for this months newsletter, see you next month.
Kind Regards, Your Counsellor & Coach, Jacqui!
Copyright © 2019 Jacqueline Hogan Counselling & Coaching, All rights reserved.


Want to change how you receive these emails?
You can update your preferences or unsubscribe from this list.

Email Marketing Powered by Mailchimp