It’s hard to believe it’s the last month of the decade. It's a time for celebration and reflection. In my latest Refinery 29 column, one woman asked me how to know if you should leave your job. She works in a positive environment and loves her coworkers (cheers to that), but after four years feels like she could challenge herself more. Is the grass really greener elsewhere?
My initial reaction is that a non-toxic workplace seems like a unicorn these days, so before you make a move ask your current employer for what you want. I recently met Columbia Business School professor Daniel Ames who's on a mission to help people build their negotiation skills. Here are his 3 quick tips:
1) Find your allies. Who could share helpful information with you about things like compensation norms and the promotion process? Who could advocate for you? Reach out to them, and enlist their help, early on.
2) Be proactive. Choose a moment when you and your counterpart can be at your best and in the right mindset. Avoid asking for a raise right after budgets are locked in.
3) Get ready for the questions you'll face. What will they want to know? Plan and practice your responses in advance.
Want more tips? Sign up for Daniel’s full negotiation course and use the code FRANFRIEND when subscribing for 20% off until January 15. I’m all about learning and growing in 2020, so think about what you want more of, who can help you get there, and simply make the ask.
Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!
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TIP / Find a Cause You Care About
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Being a GlobalGiving board member for the past seven years has been one of the most meaningful parts of my career. It's a wonderful organization that allows companies and individual donors to choose from thousands of charitable projects to support, like building schools in Nepal and supporting infants with autism in the US. This month, instead of my typical book giveaway, the first 10 people to respond to this email will receive a GlobalGiving gift card, which will allow you to make a $25 donation to your favorite cause.
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Startup shop: My friend Tina Imm, who recently led Beyonce’s digital team, is now running House of Fluff, an animal-free, earth-friendly, faux fur brand that has grabbed the attention of celebs and Oprah's Favorite Things. Get 10 percent off your purchase with code NICEGIRL.
Startup tips: The New York Times recently posed the question, "How Can Female Entrepreneurs Attract Financing?" One of my investments iFundWomen made the list. See what other great resources they shared.
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On My Radar
- I loved being on The Best of Both Worlds podcast with Laura Vanderkam and Sarah Hart-Unger and discussing niceness in your career + finding alone time.
- Great read: How to talk about yourself in the best way possible.
- This conversation between two of my favorite people Patricia Karpas and Garance Dore is a must-listen for anyone looking to rediscover themselves.
- My friend, artist Ashley Longshore is having a mega moment. Check out this Q&A about her new coffee table book (which makes a great holiday gift!).
- Come see me talk at The Bedford Playhouse on February 5 with two other awesome authors: Katie Sise and Fiona Davis.
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And, if you have a friend who would love to join our newsletter circle, tell them to sign up here. If you want a sample of my book, take a listen. And, as always, email me with ideas.
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