+ The HOLIDAY EPISODE | The WISDOM podcast Season 1 Episode 10
A woman walks up to a mirror, her eyes scowling as she looks critically for what is 'wrong'; for what she doesn't like about herself. Her thoughts are self-effacing and hurtful. No one can hear the harsh words that she tells herself. The woman doesn't see all of her natural beauty, all of what makes her uniquely perfect. She no longer remembers a time when she didn't question her appearance or anything that allowed her to feel good about herself. This woman is many women; and any person who has grown up with the constant messaging that they are not 'okay'; that there is something wrong with who they innately are. This is how we come to learn that we are not enough even though this could not be further from the truth.
On a pre-release of this episode, I received many comments from listeners who observed how the story of my client Janet resonated with them and their life experiences. You'll find their feedback and comments here as I believe its important to share the messages that so many of us suffered disparaging feedback and critical words even if our caregivers did not intent to negatively affect our self-esteem and worth.
In this episode, my hope is twofold: first, that if you can relate to the story of Janet, that it helps you break the patterns of critical and hurtful self-talk that has caused you to diminish your abilities and inherent potential; so that you may change what you say and believe. Second, that as a parent, you are now more aware of what messages you are sending to your child and what you are teaching by what your child or children witness of you.
As you listen to this episode, I hope that you will be helped by the practical teachings, strategies and guidance for how you can reclaim what has always been yours; that is, your personal sense of pride in who you are; your invincibility and that you are uniquely perfect as you are, even as you may be working on aspects of yourself to become more.
"OMG sad to realize I’m perpetuating some of my mother’s beliefs onto my own daughter. I intend to change this immediately 😐" Claire
"Wow this was so good I will have to re-listen. It brought up so many feelings and emotions realizations of relationships structures." Tina Farmington Hills, USA
"Thank you for sharing this! I can relate to Janet and it has been so hard to accept myself after all of these years. We need to be kind to our children and break this cycle!" Tracy W Pennsylvania, USA
"Thank you. I listened for the benefit of my own inner child who is hurting, I know it's from looking to my parent and older sister for approval so I was never good enough for myself." Nancy Vail Yellowknife, Canada
"It's never 'okay' to accept hurtful comments and words from our loved ones." - Dorothy Ratusny
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