The Unwilling Participant

As a professional in this field you have undoubtedly crossed paths with a resistant and reluctant resident that, despite you’re best efforts, continues to be an “unwilling” joiner in socially oriented opportunities. You have done the research, conducted the interviews, completed the assessments and reviewed residents’ records, but regardless of previously noted pursuits, nothing appears to sparks any desire from this resident to participate.

Change is difficult, particularly for the elderly population so there is no getting around the fact that relocating full time living to an unfamiliar environment involves life altering change. This change may be a more profoundly challenging adjustment for some more than others.

Some of the difficult aspects of a move to senior care living may include:

The resident’s first days and weeks can be an exhausting, emotionally challenging process. The experience may be bewildering at best and traumatic at worst. It can be overwhelming and confusing for the new admission to get used to a new routine, a new schedule, and a new way of living.

The transition may initially turn an eager to join resident into a hesitant and reluctant “unwilling” participant but there is no reason however, to be alarmed when you’re enthusiasm and warm invitations continue to be declined unless a comprehensive clinical assessment deems otherwise (anxiety, depression, etc.).

Don’t give up the ship! Some residents jump in the waters whilst, others are more hesitant. Listen to the words behind resident emotions and be sure to respond with honesty and sincerity – and above all have patience! Your resident will transition on his/her own time – not on your time.

Some residents will never become interested in group related gatherings. Statistically speaking, it is reported that approximately 25% of the general population have a natural preference to independently pursue “me time” and are rather protective of their choice to spend time on their own.

Solitude is a normal human need and all too often much emphasis and pressure is placed on being ‘social’ whereas a reasonable lack of social activity is perfectly natural. That said, there is a clear distinction between the intentional and unintentional socially averting resident.

Intentional: Usually avoid and do not initiate human interaction and prefer solitude. These individuals are those who prefer their own company to the company of others. They may actively avoid interacting with other people and are generally content to keep to themselves. Another unique distinction is that this resident “chooses” to be alone when social opportunities are offered.

Unintentional: They are those who isolate themselves from others because of mental illness or social alienation. One of the hallmarks of this characteristic personality is that they tend to feel drained after socializing and must have time out to recharge his/her batteries.

Characteristics of Solitude Seeking Elders:

These residents tend to gravitate to a more sedate or self determining past time. They may be found seemingly enjoying a majority of time in their bedrooms without interest in pursuing interactions with others. They engage with life in fundamentally different ways; indifferent to socially oriented opportunities.

NOTE: It must be noted that this lifestyle is neither unhealthy nor irregular.

Whether your resident demonstrates preference for independence or enthusiastically desires to be a part of the gang… It is your responsibility as a professional in this field to identify personal preferences while supporting the residents’ choices.

Take your cues from the resident and remember that a “well adjusted” resident may likely prefer spending time alone and/or desire to join others. Either is acceptable as long as it is reflective of the residents’ preference.

In the meantime – have patience – and consider offering “independent leisure pursuits” during the initial transition period to help your resident slowly acclimate to his/her new environment.

The following are a few examples of Independent Leisure Pursuits:
Pet Therapy: Most facilities now accept routine visits from responsible pet therapy program representatives. These furry friends have the power to reduce a number of health related problems (blood pressure, depression, etc.).

Pet Ownership/Care: Check with your facility administration as to inquire if pet ownership is allowed, even a friendly avian feather friend in a large cage would be a welcome companion and engaging opportunity for room bound residents.

Weather Station: A weather station can offer engagement for the weather enthusiast. Materials are typically budget friendly. Gadgets that measure temperatures (indoors and outdoors), outdoor rain fall, relative humidity, etc. are readily available. Create a weather log to record temperatures and seasonal changes from day to day.

Mobile Library: Weekly or monthly, a mobile library with audio books, CDs and large print books would help loners and those unable to get to the library.
Related: Mobile Library Trolley

Bird Watching: Use your own backyard or garden to observe birds. A pair of binoculars is a good investment if the resident is keen (priced from $120 onwards).
Related: Bird Watching Activities

Drawing/Sketching: Drawing is not an inherited talent; all you need is to practice. There should be no pressure or judgment. Related: The Benefits of Coloring for the Elderly

Games: The Internet is full of free games you can load on a computer. If you use the web browser Chrome there is a great list of Puzzle & Brain Apps available.
Related: Word Games and Sudoku and Riddles and Crosswords and Word Searches.

For more ideas for your independent resident:
https://www.goldencarers.com/15-activities-for-loners-and-introverted-seniors/4274/

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