It's Valentine's Day tomorrow and it comes with its promise of romance and sexiness, pronouncements of love, sensual pleasures of all kinds, chocolate, flowers and lingerie. Famously, its the lover's day of the year. And it comes with pressure too. Girlfriends have fantasies and expectations, boyfriends panic that they will do it wrong. And single people get lonely and wonder what they have to do to have the dream of eros too. What is it we are chasing?
Oxytocin, the bonding chemical! Its the hormone that gushes through us in orgasm, and during sensual experiences of all kinds. It allows us to feel in connection, in love, feeling cared for, healed, fulfilled, and...pleasure. That pleasure of delighting in the divine gift of our sexuality.
So.. rather than falling down the rabbit hole of disappointment at not having a 'date' for V-day, or having a wrong gift, or a forgetful or insensitive partner, let's delight in our own version of ecstasy, whatever that is. It is a little easier for women to get there as our bodies are built with sensual receptors on the outside, so when those bodies are pampered, our passion often turns on.
And we have another built in too. When women get together in groups, studies have shown that their oxytocin increases, and what I know is that when Oxytocin is flowing through a body, as a result, it's owner's happiness increases, and so their health and fertility/vitality increases too.
What would it take for you to really enjoy your Valentine's day, single or attached? To activate your own oxytocin? Lingerie party at home for your partner, or just for you? Strawberries, chocolate and whipped cream after a long scented bath...
Need some erotic inspiration? Click the photo above to see Kylie Minogue in her banned Agent Provocateur lingerie commercial. Reow~!
I'll be dancing for my own joy and taking a few of you along with me this Saturday evening at Lida's home. We'll be activating the Sisterhood circle for fun and pleasure! Care to join us in exploring Eros the Belly Dancing way?
WHEN: February 15th, 7:00pm - 10:00pm
WHERE: 11837 Laurelwood Dr. , Apt 19
Studio City CA 91604
( ground floor of apartment complex. Take the path to the right of the sign out front.)
BRING: bottle of water, a hip scarf if you have one.
Please register today to reserve your spot. Go to Eventbrite here. Limited to 12 women.
Happy Valentine's Day!
Much love,
Josie xxo
Valentine's TANTRIC BELLY DANCE
Valentine's Day each year can bring up feelings of aloneness and profound yearning for romance and partnership. Yet until we truly learn to love ourselves, in all of of our human messiness and really delight in who we are, we cannot even be happy, let alone manifest that beautiful partner with whom to dance and play in life.
Whether you are attached or single, join me for a special Tantric Belly Dance Ceremony at 7pm at Lida's home on the 15th of February. Feel the medicine of the support of other women, as we reach for that precious self love, together. Let's sooth and inspire our hearts and bodies.
We rebirth ourselves as fluid, creative, expressive creatures. Finding that part of us that feels locked away in a distant castle - our muse - the soft, feminine beguiling one. She who is immersed in the poetry of the moment. Let’s remember her and reclaim her, in our circle of sisters, setting ourselves free and wild upon this earth with passionate and fierce love.
Being witnessed in our beauty and vulnerabilty is powerfully healing. It is also the gateway to the Divine Feminine.
