With Your Child:
Included in my book, Unexpected Blessings, is a list of 7 phrases every special-needs sibling needs to hear. Add a few of these to your conversations this week to encourage your typical child:
“You have my full attention.” Special-needs siblings can feel like their needs are always taking a back seat to their sibling’s needs. Try to reserve part of your day for just your typical children. Maybe it’s at bedtime. Or when you’re washing dishes together. Or when you can get away to a movie.
“Let’s make a plan together.” This is important to say when you find yourself saying, “Not right now” too often. The answer may be “Not right now,” but there will be a time you can do what your typical child is asking you to do. Make a plan together to do it when it’s best for all of you.
“I understand how you feel.” When I had negative feelings, like embarrassment or frustration, I needed to know my feelings were ok to have. My parents never shamed me for how I felt. They showed empathy and understanding. Now I can share stories from my childhood with David when he shares his negative emotions. I know how he feels because I’ve been where he is.
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