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Rebel?
By Caroline
Following last month’s newsletter, I noticed something about myself that I hadn’t encountered lately. I call it my “rebellious side.”
It showed up after another coach gave an empowering speech geared toward transforming the lives of others. I was transported by her charisma, by the potential it created to transform our world. And it wasn’t just words … I watched the women around me grab hold of this idea, endorse their own power, embrace who they are, and reach for their goals and the best version of themselves. It was amazing, and I loved witnessing it.
She then suggested we start a journal to write down one long-term goal we could tackle now, and … I got blocked. I felt like I was floating without goals, that I had no ambition. I got upset, uninterested in the exercise, even depressed. I was asked what I wanted my life to look like in 10 years, what I wanted to have accomplished – and nothing! Blank. And, what is that hiding in the background? Is that … fear? But why? Where did that come from?
I remembered that in my past, if I was “managed” in sales, with incentives and goals to reach, I was blocked, too, and couldn’t accomplish anything. However, if I was left alone, without guidelines and supervision, I excelled. This sounds to me a bit like the old, “Don’t tell me what to do,” that I felt growing up. My rebellious side! Except now I call it my gremlin, and he tells me, “You can’t do it, you’re not good enough.” It’s his way of protecting me, by not letting me take risks. One such tactic is for me to “avoid being dominated.” Bingo! I was feeling small and inadequate, and my goals weren’t big enough or good enough, so I was unable to look at what to do next. If I don’t do it at all, I can’t fail, right?
I had forgotten who I was. My Values weren’t alive or aligned with who I am. And the proof was clear over the next couple of days when none of my plans worked, challenges were popping up all around me, and things were just generally falling apart. And then, it occurred to me what was going on. I focused on reactivating and honoring my Core Values, and, before long, life got back on track.
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My life purpose is Joy … creating it, spreading it, offering it. There is nothing small about that! But, in order for me to nurture that Joy, I have to do the things that make me happy and fulfilled. Little and big things, a mix. It helps me be the best version of myself, and I can then challenge myself and keep growing.
I love creating balance with the different tasks and roles I take on, from mother to coach, wife to property manager, friend to adventurer. I want to keep that balance, and keep creating and spreading Joy. But, I will do it “my way!”
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Teen Core Values Workshops
Twin/teen years are a conflicted time … A time for them to explore who they are, what they want and how they fit in.
They often experience conflict, lack of self-confidence, mood swings, worry, anxiety and stress. It’s easy for them to feel lost and alone…
In this workshop, they will:
- Discover who they truly are
- Become self-expressed and confident
- Reduce anxiety and stress
- Design a life they choose
- Experience balance, freedom and joy!
Contact me for information or to schedule your own workshop
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