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Happy Easter! I hope you were able to get away or enjoy a well earned break and have a relaxing rest with family and friends.
A short and sweet newsletter for you this month.
Lee & I managed to get away for a quick break over Easter to Wilsons Promontory and around Healesville, East of Melbourne. During this time, I recorded a short video message for you. See below.
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Watch My Easter Message for Couples - Creating a Happy Place
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Website Refresh - New Look & Functionality
Those with a keen eye will notice the website has been updated recently.
A new look and improvements behind the scenes will help you get around the site easier. Further updates will be made over the next few weeks (and months) as it gets bedded in.
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Are You Guilty of Blaming Others When Things go Wrong?
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Immediately blaming others is a common response - as shown in the cartoon above, but being unable to admit fault or error (even partly) can cause real ongoing problems. Especially if it lies within your relationship.
This is called fundamental attribution error.
To help release you (or a loved one) from the burden of shame, guilt, anger or embarrassment associated with directing blame, lets take a closer look at the graphic.
See the man in the red shirt. When he sees someone else slip on a banana peel, his first thought is that there is something wrong with that person. It’s that guy’s own clumsiness that caused his fall. "What a clutz!"
Later, when he himself slips on a banana peel, his first thought is that someone else must be responsible.
This is known as an attribution error: We tend to think that another person’s behavior reveals who they are, while our own blunders are someone else’s fault.
It might initially feel uncomfortable to be wrong or admit to misinterpreting a situation. But taking the time to look inward, admit mistakes, being honest with yourself, will help you personally feel 'free and clear'; (A prerequisite for your happiness?)
Moreover taking ownership of your behavior and actions helps build a foundation of genuine trust and respect in your relationship. With no grudge to bear or 'war to wage'; it leaves you room to focus on the things that bring you pleasure and make you happy.
So next time you slip on a banana peel, where will you direct blame (if at all!?)
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