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Sex, Intimacy, & Aging
Our bodies change as we age. Everyone knows that.
Our minds change. Everyone also knows that...
But how does our sense of self change? Our own identity?
How do our relationships change?
How do our sexuality and our intimacy change as we age?
The bad news is, the mind and body inevitably decline (faster than you think) — so start taking care of yourself now!!!
The good news is, the rest of them — including our relationships, our sexuality, and our intimacy — are often strengthened. Enhanced.
We find a sense of self — and thus more confidence in our more authentic selves — that youth never allowed us. We become more comfortable and stop pretending to be something or someone that we are not. We cut the shit that doesn't bring us joy, and as our time and energy become more finite and more precious, we learn to use it more wisely.
Our identity plays such a powerful role in our sexuality, intimacy, and relationships, thus when we can deepen that, then we can deepen our connections throughout all walks of life.
So... why do you have to wait until old age to finally learn how to understand ourselves and actually be ourselves and reap all the benefits? Good question. We don't think you should! That's exactly why we're here.
Welcome to BBXX ;)
7 Facts About Physical Intimacy As You Get Older
Funny how people think it's all bad — yet what the research is actually finding is that orgasms become easier, people's attitudes become better, and women finally ask for what they want.
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“They make those extra long tubes for the oxygen, you know... you can leave the tank on the floor now, and still get it on.”
Lessons learned from a 59-year-old, from her 81-year-old grandma — such as how much better sex is when "beauty" is defined by humor, kindness, and curiosity.
Very often, when we hit puberty, we start worrying about fitting in and being popular. And we become the subjects and objects of other people's lives. But now, in our "third acts," it may be possible for us to circle back to where we started, and know it for the first time.
Photographer Isadora Kosofsky shares photos from her four years documenting the lives of a senior citizen relationship that is a "trio" — and reveals what they can teach us about the universal search for identity and belonging.
“We often think that as we age, we lose the desires held in our youth. Actually, as a teenage photojournalist when I met the trio, I saw their behaviors as a mirror to the fears of exclusion and desire for intimacy that I also carried."
Eventually, at a much older age, there is often a decline again in many of these aspects — from our own identity to our relationships and intimacy as a result. Interestingly enough, it is said that "in the breakdown of social development, that adolescence and old age look strikingly alike, because both are periods of identity confusion."
However, the important part is that the curve in this pattern occurs much later than people are led to believe!
Lessons learned:
Take care of yourself. Take care of your relationships.
Start getting "wise" now — before you get "old".
Live it up while you still can!
Do you have a stance on porn? What is it based on?
Many of us have our opinions, but how many of us know the stories of the people behind the industry?
Later this week we will share more scientific and research-based resources, for example covering the psychological, emotional, and social consequences of pornography. But the idea- for now- is that you can perhaps better form your own opinions from a place of deeper understanding, as a result of hearing some of these unique stories from the people who work in the industry. We truly believe that stories are one of the best ways to teach- and to learn.
In the San Francisco Bay Area? Join us at our BBXX Book Club meetup tomorrow— Wednesday, March 6th! More details here.
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