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Enjoying Time Together | Craig Lambert Couples Therapy

Enjoying Time Together

We don’t stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing.

How satisfied are you and your partner with the amount of fun you have together? Do you talk about wanting more fun time, but the demands of daily life get in the way?
We meet with many couples who would like to do more fun things together, but never do. They struggle just getting the basic chores done after work and feel exhausted at the end of the day. They make plans, but never seem to be able to implement them.

Sometimes one person feels like he or she is the one who has to plan everything - and then burnout sets in. What was once a fun and enjoyable process of planning time together gets infused with frustration and even resentment. To avoid this from happening in our relationship, we agreed to each pick one night a month to plan a fun date from soup to nuts. This allows each of us to plan a date doing what we enjoy doing. We also pick one night every other month to create a date with another couple. We have found that getting these times on the calendar and making them a priority makes them happen without stress.  

Putting it into Practice 

Sit down together with your calendars for the month. Each of you must choose one weekend evening or day to plan an activity for the two of you. If possible, spread it out so that it's every other weekend. By putting it in your calendar, it almost guarantees that you will have at least two dates this month - and you're only responsible for planning one of them.

Remember, the one planning the event has to take full responsibility for every aspect even if it means getting a babysitter. Although it may seem obvious, here are a few examples:
  • Go on a morning hike and have breakfast together
  • Go to a romantic movie and chat about it afterwards over coffee
  • Go to a yoga class, go bowling, go to the theater, go to a new restaurant, ride bikes, etc. 
     
As always, we would love to hear from you.

In-love,
Craig and Debbie
IT'S EASY TO FALL IN LOVE. STAYING IN LOVE TAKES WORK.

Craig Lambert and Debbie Seid are dedicated to helping couples rekindle their love, deepen their intimacy and strengthen communication. They have worked with hundreds of San Diego couples, helping them understand the often unconscious underpinnings of relationship conflict. Craig and Debbie offer premarital education to help couples prepare for the challenges and opportunities of married life, enriching the premarital stage and deepening their relationship, so both partners are even more excited to commit to each other for life. For more information about couples workshops, premarital education, and couples/marriage counseling, visit us online at CraigLambertTherapy.com.
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Craig Lambert, LCSW (License # LCS14003)


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