If you're trying to fix your sadness, your grief, your fear, your anger, your loneliness, your doubts, your broken heart, your deep longing for Home, you've already made them into a problem, and so you're already at war. Your search for a solution implies that something is broken and needs fixing here. There is a 'good me' at war with a 'bad me', a 'perfect self' at war with an 'imperfect self', and this is the root of all violence.
End the dualistic war. Stop splitting yourself in two. Two is one too many for you. Turn towards the part of yourself that feels broken, tender, raw, 'bad', and for a moment, stop running away from it, and stop searching for its solution. Listen to it. Stay present with it, as you would with a hurt child. Stay very close indeed. Do not turn away. It may contain valuable information. Begin to allow the un-allowable part, begin to accept these seemingly unacceptable energies within yourself, or simply accept that you cannot accept right now; simply allow your total inability to allow. Shine your light fearlessly into the darkness. You will come to see that there are no enemies within you, no mistakes, no demons, no brokenness, only manifestations of consciousness that long to be met, embraced, integrated as part of an infinitely larger picture; only children that long to return Home...
No solution? No problem. Only Love.
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Death does not end the story. Death does not end a relationship
Reflection
"The answer to the mystery of existence is the love you shared sometimes so imperfectly, and when the loss wakes you to the deeper beauty of it, to the sanctity of it, you can’t get off your knees for a long time, you’re driven to your knees not by the weight of the loss but by gratitude for what preceded the loss…”
~ Dean Koontz ~
“Life is changed not ended
Death does not end our story… Death does not end our relationships"
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