I want to have a great relationship with them, and I want them to have healthy, lasting relationships with others as adults. So I am constantly looking for articles and examples that lead towards this.
Currently, in our household, we are hyper focused on the 8 to 13 year age range. Meaning, we are trying to be more engaged, more present, more in tune with what is going on with our kids. This does not mean we are raising snowflakes, or that we are helicopter parents (well, we probably are helicopter parents) . . . What it means is we are choosing to be more present now, and realizing that as they become teenagers and will want more autonomy, we can work more and travel more. This is a bit of an experiment. Most people I know raised their kids while working long hours on the front end, and hoping to re-engage and be more present during the teenage years after the parents gained more financial freedom; only to realize the teens did not have nor want a relationship with their parents at that point. Again, parenting is about the adults doing the best they can, and as the children get older hopefully they forgive their parents for falling short. Everyone has to own their part. . . and, it really is all a shot in the dark.
Here is an article from a parent who seemingly has gotten some things right. One of her kids is the CEO of YouTube. Another is the Co-Founder and CEO of 23andMe. A third child is a professor of pediatric medicine. All of her children are females. Here are some of her main points:
- Teach Your Kids to Care
- The Importance of Community
- The American Idea is All Wrong
- Prioritize Service and Purpose
You can read more of her article here “How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results,”
Also, for the Dads out there, we see you!
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