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Thank you for being part of this community! Keep reading for more information about the importance of setting clear boundaries. Get news about future This Way Up Online Interactive Workshops and news about an upcoming summit you're invited to join. You can always find me at ThisWayUpBook.com.
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Want More Compassion? Set Boundaries.
“Compassionate people ask for what they need. They say no when they need to, and when they say yes, they mean it. They're compassionate because their boundaries keep them out of resentment.”
~ Brené Brown
God I love Brené Brown! She’s sassy and funny and smart. And 23 years clean and sober to top it all off. During a recent interview, Brené Brown and Russel Brand discussed sobriety, vulnerability and compassion, among other things.
One of the things that surprised me most was what her research taught her about compassion. When she asked Russel what he thought the most compassionate people had in common, I paused the video to guess. I guessed empathy, self-love and self-compassion. But when researchers analysed the data about what the most compassionate people had in common, one variable stood out: boundaries of steel.
Very compassionate people who were interviewed repeatedly said: I’m compassionate because I do not subject myself to the abuse of other people.
From this research, Brown and her colleagues developed the idea of BIG:
“What Boundaries need to be in place so that I can be in my Integrity and be Generous toward you?”
Wow! That was a surprise. I don’t know about you, but from a young age, I learned to people-please; I learned to say yes even when I didn’t want to do something; I learned to smile and laugh things off even when they hurt; I learned to go with the flow and not make waves and get along with people. I certainly did not learn to say no.
Most of us who grew up in chaotic and abusive homes learned to survive and/or escape by doing whatever it took. I learned to be a people pleaser and to numb the pain of losing myself. As Brené Brown explains:
“We do that by numbing the pain with whatever provides the quickest relief. We can take the edge off emotional pain with a whole bunch of stuff, including alcohol, drugs, food, sex, relationships, money, work, caretaking, gambling, affairs, religion, chaos, shopping, planning, perfectionism, constant change, and the Internet. And just so we don’t miss it in this long list of all the ways we can numb ourselves, there’s always staying busy: living so hard and fast that the truths of our lives can’t catch up with us. We fill every ounce of white space with something so there’s no room or time for emotion to make itself known.”
Brené Brown also inspired me to be truly vulnerable and write my full back-story on my latest blog post: Hi I’m Patti and I’m a Rebel.
She inspired me with this quote:
“I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time. Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.”
So I “came out” and got completely vulnerable in my blog post. You can read my "coming out" blog post here.
If you want to read more about compassion and boundaries, you can read about it in my recent article on Thrive Global.
| And if you want to watch the incredible interview with Russel Brand and Brené Brown, check it out on my latest blog post. |
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This Way Up Online Interactive Live Workshops
We just completed the fourth This Way Up Online Interactive Live Workshop. And what a fantastic workshop it was! There were eleven amazing women participating in this workshop from four different countries: Australia, New Zealand, Canada and the US. Wonderful insights and experiences were shared. One participant, Trish from New Zealand, remarked:
“I really liked interacting with like-minded women, with very different personalities, all who were willing to be open and vulnerable to share their experiences. Extensive resource content–and knowing that it was all voluntary. I thoroughly enjoyed being a part of Patti’s workshop. Patti has a very warm and charismatic approach, which I relate to very well. I know it was very significant for my own spiritual and personal growth going forward.”
If you are interested in learning more about these online workshops, you can check out the workshop on my website. The next workshop will be starting soon, and I'm taking expressions of interest now. Let me know if you're interested!
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Upcoming Summit: Spiritual Superhero
I’m so excited to be participating in the upcoming Spiritual Superheroes Online Summit! This event is hosted by the amazing Adrienne Lloren. She is a powerhouse! And it is going to be an incredible summit. You can join us here.
Adrienne Lloren is a Spiritual Hip-Hop Artist, Digital Content Creator, & Overall Happy Person on a mission to inspire and nurture the creative spirit. She is the host of "Spiritual Superhero," an online interview series that aims to provide soul-centred insights, wisdom, and real-life stories that leave people excited, empowered, and energized to unleash their soul's creative calling. She believes that the seeds of greatness planted in our hearts are there because we are meant to live them out.
ABOUT THE SHOW:
What is the Spiritual Superhero Series? ... It is a collection of conscious conversations about creativity. Creating one's life work. Creating peace, love, and happiness. Creating art with a deeper sense of humanity. Creating an abundance of money and freedom. Creating life by design. Creating consciously on the pursuit of a purpose-driven life.
What's a Spiritual Superhero? ... An ordinary person who is intuitively guided to live an extraordinary life's mission. A new breed of humanity emerging with a shared awareness that we’re all connected and equally responsible for raising the Earth’s vibration through love, peace, and conscious creativity.
Our vision for this free online experience is a global movement that inspires and nurtures the human spirit, where people leave this series excited, energized, and empowered to create powerfully and with conscious intention.
Our mission is to mobilize a league of Spiritual Superheroes to step into their inner greatness and unleash their soul's creative calling.
The Spiritual Superheroes Series goes live on July 31st, 2019 |
Find out more here!
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Buy the Book!
"Author Patti Clark is a cross between Elizabeth Gilbert and Julia Cameron."
This Way Up is a story of healing for women who yearn to lead a fuller life, accompanied by a workbook to help readers work through personal challenges, discover new inspiration, and harness their creative power. . .
This Way Up provides a step-by-step way out of a sense of loss and into a life filled with enthusiasm, creativity, and joy.
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Parting Words
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”
~ Hermann Hesse
And if you do want to be more compassionate, what boundaries are you willing to set today? I would love to hear what works for you.
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