Coming back home to your inner truth creates a deep sense of personal harmony.
Happy Thursday Friend,
I hope this note finds you well. As we near the end of the month, what is one win you’ve had this August? If you feel like it, hit reply and let me know. I’ll celebrate with you. It’s always great to hear from you.
This week’s note is about getting back up when we get knocked down. Because isn’t that the definition of a life well-lived? I believe living a life you love isn’t about being happy and upbeat all the time. It’s about staying true to ourselves through the ups and downs in life. It’s staying tethered to our worth, when life gets noisy and messy. Whatever you want to call it: your inner truth, point of center, inner voice, intuition, or whatever sounds and feels best to you…this soothing force is always available to help you re-direct when you go off course. I go more into this topic below. Hope it’s timely.
In this Week’s Featured Article (it's also posted below): 3 Ways to Feel Centered, So You Can Create a Life You Love, I share a few strategies to steady yourself when you feel off your game. If you’d rather view/listen to this week’s feature, you can access that by going to this week's Happiness Video (also posted below).
However the week unfolds Friend, may you see how amazing you are as you are, and love the life you are in.
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When you feel unhinged in your life, how do you come back to a place of feeling centered?
If you’ve felt off for awhile, do you recall what it’s like to feel centered and grounded?
I view feeling centered as the experience that comes from being in alignment. It’s when who you truly are matches how you show up in your daily life.
It’s easy to detect when you come across someone who is not aligned. You can feel it. While you can’t always put your finger on what seems off, you may find yourself thinking something like: he doesn’t seem authentic, or she is hard to read, or I’m not sure why, but I don’t trust that person.
If you are the one feeling out of alignment, your inner dialogue might go something like this: I’m overwhelmed, I’m such an idiot, everything feels overly hard, I don’t know who I am anymore, or I feel lost.
Feeling centered and grounded doesn’t protect us from challenges and hardships in life. But coming back home to your inner truth, creates a deep sense of personal harmony.
Being in alignment with your truth, makes traveling through life’s bumps a little less lonely and confusing. It’s like moving through life with your best friend at your side.
If your best friend was going through hard times, you wouldn’t say to her: “you’ll never get through this, you should give up, you shouldn’t feel like that, or worse, you’re a loser.” You would never think of saying any of those things.
Instead, you’d lift her up and tell her she’s got this and that she is strong. You’d comfort your friend and tell her it’s okay to feel sad, scared, or frustrated. You’d remind her that who she is, is so much more than the experience she’s going through.
Feeling centered is like this too. It’s about staying connected to your inner wise guide and Bff. It’s about making that relationship more valuable and credible than the voice of the obnoxious roommate in your head, the one who loves to tell you all the reasons why you aren’t good enough, or why things won’t work out for you.
Guiding our daily lives from a place of feeling centered, won’t extinguish the urge to listen to the obnoxious roommate in our minds. But it does help us feel like we are worthy of being on our human journey. When we know our worth and we stop beating up on ourselves, it’s easier to see all that is good about our lives.
When I feel out of alignment, these are the 3 strategies I use to get back to a place of feeling centered. Next time you feel off your game, give them a try.
1. Draw on Your Sources of Inspiration
Who or what inspires you? Make a list, either on paper or in your mind, of the type of people and experiences that help you feel hopeful and uplifted.
Sometimes the best way to get motivated to get back on your game, is to be moved by someone else’s story of resilience. There are countless stories, past and present, that illustrate the strength and tenacity of the human spirit. More often than not, the person at the heart of the inspiring story, tapped into their beliefs and inner resolve. They turned inward to steady themselves so they’d feel up to the task of moving through what appeared to be unthinkable.
This same human spirit lives within you and when you feel connected and tethered to her, life instantly feels better.
Draw on your sources of inspiration when you aren’t sure how to find your way back home to yourself.
2. Use Microsteps to Create Momentum
The best way to create habits of thinking and being that actually stick, is to know how you want to feel and then make small steps forward.
I’m a fan of using Microsteps to get on the path of making change. Microsteps are small, realistic steps that are attainable because they meet you where you’re at.
When we feel off our game, there can be a tendency to build evidence and momentum that keeps us feeling stuck. But when we put our focus on what we want and we want to feel better, Microsteps are the ideal place to start.
