According to a new book, "Dopamine Nation" by Anna Lembke, every day we tell on average 2 lies. I have also found that there are lies that, although we don't speak them, we live them. 

When I had a substance or behavior use problem I would never bring up the topic but I would walk around with the fear that the topic might get brought up. My life was being controlled by something that I was afraid of facing.

If I never looked at those things and got pretty radically honest about what I was doing, I may have never taken been able to get to a place I loved myself. My 20+ years of sober time is great, and I am glad I have it, but that is still just a beverage choice. My recovery, and the subsequent love I can offer myself to face the lies I used to tell, and new ones that come, is the prize of this journey.

A clear mind is not something that just happens. In this dopamine-flooded world, people fight tooth and nail for the right to live with muddied minds, and lying to ourselves is at the root of a lot of that. This is not a place to judge, lying is a part of our lives but if you can curiously find them you might be able to address them.

If you are interested in sussing out a few lies in your life you'll want to attend one of my upcoming Recover Yourself workshops. There, I guide you in discovering a lie that keeps you imprisoned and frustrated in your life, and that needs to stop even if you aren't aware it's happening. 

To start on a journey of caring about yourself come to my Recover Yourself Workshops.