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Staying inbounds

Even the merriest among us know that the holidays can be emotionally, physically, and psychologically taxing. By setting boundaries with yourself and others over the break, you can avoid conflict and save your sanity.

Setting boundaries may be about saying ‘no’ to people’s requests for your help or declining invitations. They may be about changing or ending traditions that no longer serve you. It might be declining to engage in heated discussions or humouring inappropriate comments.

Remember that boundaries are not “mean.” They simply draw a line between what belongs to you and what belongs to others. One key to effective boundary setting without drama and relationship damage is assertively setting your boundaries in a calm, simple, and direct way. Read this article to get more advice on how to set realistic boundaries this season.

Why
Healthy boundaries are a crucial component of self-care. That’s because “in work or in our personal relationships, poor boundaries lead to resentment, anger, and burnout” (Nelson, 2016). More generally, the consequences of not setting healthy boundaries often include “stress, financial burdens, wasted time, and relationship issues, which can cause mental distress”. In other words, a lack of healthy boundaries can negatively affect all aspects of someone’s life.
Setting healthy boundaries can have many benefits, including helping people make decisions based on what is best them, not just the people around them. This autonomy is an important part of self-care.