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Encouragement. Today.

Good morning!

In this week's Encouragement, I strongly suggest you jump right to the bottom and check out the amazing energy of creation by some phenomenal female entrepreneurs. My friend, Meghan, is building a business around helping others achieve goals. And my long-time friend, Julie, is solidifying her name in the Indie music scene with the release of a new album (do we still call it that?) in a couple of weeks.

As for me, I'm still enjoying the insights that come with a career transition. This week, it was about returning to a post I wrote in 2019...now with a different lens.

A couple of weeks ago, I saw a job posting screamed "This description was written for you, Amy!" Still, I ignored it. Until a former colleague sent it to me via LinkedIn with a message, "You'd be great at this. It's like they wrote this for you." So...I spent a few hours over the weekend tailoring my resume and writing (and re-writing) a solid cover letter. 

On Tuesday, I received the automated rejection email. It started with "We have some hard news to share..." and it went on to "let me down easy". But, the thing is, I felt like crap.

And, while I found the job interesting and knew I would rock it, I hadn't even invested emotionally...yet. But still, rejection hurts. We all want to be wanted. 

Interestingly, my perception of the company also changed. And, it wasn't about the fact they weren't inviting me for an interview.

It was that they made this critical moment about them

I recalled a post I wrote in 2019 that described the unbelievable experience of being rejected for a job but feeling MORE connected to the company afterward. 

That's the challenge for all of us as we build more human workplaces. 

How might we all shift to take every emotionally laden moment and serve the humanness in us all rather than the company that's trying to process through the work, finish the task, or offload some applicants to the 'discard' pile? 

Rejection doesn't have to hurt. 

Each moment that matters is an opportunity to deepen a relationship and to see a person as a person...full of value, a wealth of knowledge and uniqueness. 

Make this the day where you let others know that you see them. 
Amy
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The Best Way to Be Rejected

For anyone hoping to build a more human workplace, start with the way you tell someone you don't want them to work with you.

A friend of mine recently applied for a job at a progressive start-up that is doing good in the world.

She didn't get the job.

Instead, she got one of the most empowering, praise-giving invitations to begin a relationship with the company that didn't have a job for her...yet.

The 'rejection letter' was so different, so unique, so awesome that she sent it to me and shared that rather than feel terrible about not getting to the next round of interviews, she immediately subscribed to their newsletter. Rather than think "I stink...they didn't want me", she thought "This is amazing" and wanted to wave her rejection letter around proudly and shout "This is how you reject someone, people!!"

With her permission, I am sharing this letter with you today.

This is how we make work more human(e). A standard letter - something we take for granted - dressed up to be human, appreciative, and empowering. It's a true moment that matters to a brand, a company, and a connection.

As it's been said "How you do anything is how you do everything."

I can't wait to watch and learn from Appleseed...

The letter:

Thank you for the considerable time and effort you spent to apply to Appleseed's position, and for awaiting our response. We have made the difficult decision not to continue exploring a fit with you.

To say this is a competitive hiring process would be an understatement. We've received over 200+ applicants in the past few weeks, and as a resource-constrained organization, we've had to make many difficult cuts based on stringent criteria to select just 10 to interview further.​ 

Actually, your particular candidacy was one of the most difficult to turn away... It was reviewed several times, and we debated it back and forth before ultimately determining it wouldn't be a fit, for one minor reason or another. We trust you know that this says nothing about you as a person or a candidate. In fact, we were extremely impressed by you as a candidate, and we were honored you applied to Appleseed.

Thank you for sharing your background and your sources of inspiration with us, via heartfelt responses to our questions about mission and leadership. We are inspired by you and your desire to make a difference. We also know that creating a concise 1-minute video can be challenging, requiring courage, preparation, and sometimes multiple takes, so thank you for that as well. (note: your video will not be shared nor stored).

While we won't be continuing to explore a fit with you right now, we hope the application process provided you with a good opportunity for reflection and growth. Also, we wish you the very best in your continued search for a well-fitting, purpose-driven role that maximizes your talents. If you sincerely believe in Appleseed's mission, as it seems you do from your application, please do stay in touch via LinkedIn or sign up to our mailing list, if you haven't already. 

By this point, even though we haven't spoken, I feel that I know you. I sincerely hope to cross paths with you at some point down the road.

All the best,

Philip Kao

Yes, my friends. We can do better. We can question the way things have 'always' been done and begin to do them differently humanely. Or, maybe we invent a new word -- human-ly , which I'd define as: (adjective 1. behaving as a human, appreciating the gifts, time and talents of other humans. In all things, leading and behaving with respect to one another.)

https://nobodymakesitalone.com/best-way-to-be-rejected/

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What my friend, Meghan, is doing...

The Guided Mentee is helping me discover new approaches to achieving goals. My friend, Meghan, is behind this amazing Instagram account and soon-to-be-released course. Not only do I adore this impressive woman, but I have watched her live her authentic approach to setting goals and achieving them. I encourage you to follow her on IG and watch what unfolds in the coming months (and experience how her tips help you get where you want to go...)

 

Get Ready...my friend, Julie Davis, has new music

My long-time friend is a well-known name in the Denver music scene and she is releasing new music February 12. Check out this amazing profile of her in The Denver Post

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