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Dear <<First Name>>,

It is Good Friday morning as I write this. So, Good Friday today, Easter Sunday in a couple days.

When I was a Christian, there was, of course, a lot of significance to this weekend. When I began to transition away from Christianity about ten years ago, it became a time of confusion, sadness, loss. And for several years, a new tradition I took part in, just by myself, was reading Rachel Held Evan's blog entry Holy Week for Doubters at some point during the Easter weekend. (I still get a lump in my throat when I read it!) I can totally relate to the part where she talks about the congregation singing Easter hymns, loudly, confidently...meanwhile, "you’ll be sitting there in the dress you pulled out from the back of your closet, swallowing down the bread and wine, not believing a word of it. Not. A. Word. So you’ll fumble through those back pocket prayers—'help me in my unbelief!'—while everyone around you moves on to verse two, verse three, verse four without you."  

And she writes about how, if you reach a point where you can admit your doubts to another person, "you felt more alive and awake and resurrected than you have in ages." Oh, how I get that. I think of my conversations with my former coworker (and an ex-Catholic) Bob, and also with my friend (and a former JW) Marlene. (Here, I am reminded of a quote by C.S.Lewis: "Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.")  And, yes, definitely, I think of hours of CFI/KASHA meetups, especially early on in my deconversion. I remember a few moments at Mission Tap House when I first felt really, truly free to express some of my doubts to a bigger group. And I remember a picnic in summer 2015, when walking towards our tables and chairs, I felt like I was a part of this group as much as I'd ever been part of a church group.*

That all being said, I'm quite excited to share that in about two weeks (April 29-May 1), there will be an online conference (Conference on Religious Trauma, or CORT) for anyone who is interested in learning more about a wide range of topics related to problems that often crop up in religion. Scroll down or check out the CORT website for more information. 

Janice Selbie is the executive director of CORT, and she has also been involved with KASHA for several years. I vaguely remember that she did a Divorcing Religion workshop last summer, and I see that her Divorcing Religion website has some new blog entries, plus lots of other helpful information for those struggling with the role of religion in their lives. I am so grateful to see all the work that is being done by people like Janice. There are a lot of resources out there, but it's so hard to know where to start looking when all you've done for decades is stay in the small, sheltered world of the faith you grew up with. So, a big THANK YOU to Janice, from me and from all of us at KASHA and beyond! 

KASHA's Tuesday morning meetings have been moved to Thursday mornings. We will be meeting at either the Gellatly Nut Farm in West Kelowna or Mission Creek Regional Park in Kelowna. Check out the KASHA calendar for more details. As well, we will let you know the details of our next forum once we've organized that -- we're aiming for May! 

Have a good weekend, everyone. We may not be able to sing whole-heartedly those songs about thrones in the sky and lambs saving us from our sins, but I'm sure we can still find other reasons to rejoice. 

Tania Kuehn

think@askuskelowna.ca
KASHA - Kelowna AtheistsSkeptics & Humanists Association
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*Three years ago, Rachel passed away at age 37, after an allergic reaction to a medication. She was well-known in Christian media, authored several books, spoke publicly at schools and churches and conferences, and was often criticized for being too liberal -- "too kind"?! -- when it came to topics like gender, politics, Bible interpretation, and so on. I just saw that more of her essays were published in a book recently, and I can't wait to read it! 
KASHA COVID Policy:
 KASHA follows the COVID guidelines laid out by the BC health authorities and therefore will not require vaccination to attend events and activities after 7 April 2022. However, given that many KASHA members are at a higher risk than the general population, it is preferred that attendees be fully vaccinated against COVID 19.
It is now day 51 of the Russia-Ukraine war. If you'd like more information on how you can financially support Ukrainians at this time, check out the Red Cross website. You can donate online to the Ukraine Humanitarian Crisis Appeal, or you can call 1-800-418-1111. And for more information on how to donate by mail, click HERE. 

Conference on Religious Trauma

Friday, April 29th -  Sunday, May 1, 2022  - Online 

For more information, click here: www.religioustraumaconference.org
Continuing education credits are available.
Student and hardship discounts are also available. 
Special discount code is Promo20 for a $20 discount. Enter this code when you fill out the online registration form.

 
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Navigating the Unequally Yoked

David Teachout

In this talk we’ll cover basic principles for better communication, including how to build dialogue based on shared foundations. Relationships of any kind are how we project the meaning we’re creating for our lives and direct the expression of our Values. Like a roadmap and its connection to actual travel, Values need structure to be guided towards realized behavior. For those in a relationship where one or another is religious and the other is non-religious or formerly religious, those structures can lead to misunderstandings, hurt, and unhealthy relationship dynamics. 


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Sexuality and Sexual Identity After Religion

Darrel Ray

We are sexual creatures in every cell of our body but our developing minds are flexible and easily influenced by religious sexual indoctrination in childhood. Leaving religion does not mean it has left us. The process of reestablishing our identity after religion requires a new framework as well as new skills. Why is it so hard for many people to leave shame and guilt behind. How do we discover our sexual selves? How do we connect with others once the religious sexual straight jacket is removed? I will discuss this and other issues related to sexual identity with an eye to living a fulfilling sexual life after religion. 


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It's Not Just Personal:  The Collective Trauma of Religion

Marlene Winell

The influence of authoritarian religious thinking in American culture is pervasive and deep, evidenced by the religious motivations for the January 6 insurrection and the seemingly benign religious elements of the Inauguration itself.   Religious beliefs are considered personal and because we prize religious liberty, we assume they are benign.  Yet the basic assumptions are truly toxic both to individuals and to society.  Foundational ideas in fundamentalist, evangelical Christianity include the belief that people are degraded and ineffectual, and that we have much to fear both in an evil world and in the afterlife, that the world as we know it will inevitably end by God’s will in apocalypse, that we are not responsible for the fate of the earth, and that believers are bound to fight for tenets of perceived morality in the battle of good and evil in society.  This core set of beliefs is true for 70 million self-described evangelicals in the U.S. but affects everyone in a collective trauma.  

 

This kind of religion is deeply embedded in our culture in multiple, invisible ways.  It can be compared to institutionalized racism and called institutionalized religionism.  As a culture, we must stop assuming that the effects of religion are always good and go about the task of healing from the collective trauma, just as we need to heal from the collective trauma of the Covid pandemic or the Trump era.  This can begin with truth-telling about authoritarian religion and compassion for all of us who have suffered from its impact.


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Strange Bedfellows: How The Church and Politics Have Perpetuated Racism

Mandisa Thomas

Religion and Politics are supposed to remain separate. However, churches and politicians have upheld White Supremacy at the expense of the people. Mandisa Thomas will discuss how this impacts communities of color in particular, and what can be done to turn this around.


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Traumatic Homeschooling: How Evangelicals Use Education to Totalize

Ryan Stollar

Homeschooling is a tool. Like any tool, it can be used in healthy and unhealthy ways. White evangelicals, who make up the vast majority of homeschoolers in the United States, use homeschooling as a totalistic tool. This is made possible by the intentionally deregulated state of homeschool laws in the United States, which grants homeschool parents nearly absolute power over what they can do to and teach their children. Unsurprisingly, this has created environments where abuse and neglect run rampant. This talk will look at the ways deregulated homeschooling enables evangelicals and other totalistic homeschoolers to traumatize homeschooled children and alumni.


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Sacred Science & Mormonism: A Post-Cult Perspective on Recovery

Luna Lindsey Corbden

For decades, cult researchers have been helping survivors of high-demand groups recover from trauma. This approach brings totalist conditioning into the fore of a survivor's awareness to help them consciously untangle their former belief system from their own personalities and values. It can also offer the survivor a sense of control and limited protection from future manipulation. This talk will look at a manipulation technique known as Sacred Science, examine how this technique is used within a specific Bible-based group (Mormonism), briefly explore its interplay with other manipulation techniques, and offer suggestions on how to overcome its effects.


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Forward Facing Techniques for Religious Trauma

Emily Hedrick 

You don't have to go back to the past to find healing in the present. As a Forward Facing coach, Emily will offer techniques for working with our bodies to resolve religious trauma in everyday life. This presentation is based on research by Dr. J. Eric Gentry combined with Emily's experience working with Dr. Marlene Winell at Journey Free.


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Religious Trauma in Church Dynamics

Jennifer French Tomasic

Coercive control is a principle that has typically been explored within the context of domestic or interpersonal relationships. However, the repetitive nature of the multiple forms of this type of manipulation are often found in high demand / high control church dynamics. We will explore this topic to provide insights that foster both prevention and healing from this type of abuse.


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Evangelical Involvement in Politics & Religious Trauma 

Clint Heacock

Today we see more and more, certainly in America but increasingly worldwide, evangelical Christian Involvement in the political sphere. Should we be concerned? What's their endgame--to establish some form of a "Handmaid's Tale" theocratic society? And finally, what does it all have to do with religious trauma? 


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Religious Trauma 

Caleb Lack

Even after leaving religion behind, a number of people still find themselves struggling with the things they had been taught while in it. One example is that even though someone no longer actually believes in concepts like heaven and hell, the fear of hell or some type of eternal damnation may linger for years or decades. It can intrude upon your life when you least expect it, and many people feel guilty that they are scared or upset by something that they don't actually believe in. In this talk, Dr. Lack - a clinical psychologist and professor who specializes in anxiety and fear - will discuss why the fear of hell is so powerful for some people and strategies to reduce and eventually eliminate it.

 

Kelowna astronomer gets her name in the night sky

From The Daily Courier
Ron Seymour
Mar 7, 2022



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Colleen O'Hare, an amateur astronomer in Kelowna, has had her name attached to an asteroid in recognition of her efforts to promote public interest in astronomy, the International Astronomical Union has announced.

 

An amateur astronomer who helps connect Okanagan residents to the endless skies above them has had an asteroid named after her.

Colleen O’Hare’s volunteer and outreach work with the Royal Astronomical Society of Canada - Okanagan Centre branch has been recognized by the International Astronomical Union, based in France.

“She led the development of the club observatory’s Sky Theatre,” the Union says in its most recent bulletin, referring to a public observatory and engagement centre on Big White Road.

The citation says the asteroid will be named Colleenohare. It was discovered on Sept. 13, 1991 by H.E. Holt, who was the first to identify almost 700 asteroids between 1989 and 1993.

Previously, the asteroid had no name other than a collection of letters and numbers. READ MORE HERE

 

Several months ago, Dan Ryder, a KASHA member and one of the founding members of the group, has been recently diagnosed with a stage IV cancer, which has spread to his bones. Dan gave a presentation at one of our last forums in 2019 on the philosophical issues with abortion. His partner, Zena, was on KASHA's board for two years and was the manager of the group before it was KASHA. They have helped out a lot of people over the years.

Now it is time to help them out. One of their friends has started a meal train to help support them with meals during Dan's treatments. If you are interested in helping out and getting updates, you can go here: 
https://www.mealtrain.com/trains/yve67m
 
 

 

Webinars & Town Halls on the KASHA website

Thanks to Darrel, we now have a page of interesting webinars and town hall meetings from BC Humanists, Center for Inquiry Canada, and Amnesty International that you can watch.

If you just can't watch another Netflix show or commercial TV, tune in here to see issues that are relevant to you.  KASHA WEBINAR PAGE

You can also catch up on some of our previous newsletters HERE.

Thanks, Darrel, for all your work!
We are officially an affliate local group member with BC Humanists. We receive support to help connect with humanists and atheists in our area. We become part of a larger network of non-religious people across the province by joining with other groups.

The British Columbia Humanist Association has been providing a community and voice for humanists, atheists, agnostics, and the non-religious of Metro Vancouver and British Columbia since 1982. They  support the growth of Humanist communities across BC, provide Humanist ceremonies, and campaign for progressive and secular values.

Please consider joining the BCHA if you support our combined efforts.
KASHA needs volunteers:

Forum Speakers: We are looking for volunteers to be speakers/facilitators. If you are interested in presenting, we have a set of criteria and an approval process. We want to make sure that all the topics will be of interest to our members. So no, we won't be approving of how astrology effects your mood.

You can download the forum criteria here.  

Ideas: If you are a member and you have an idea for a speaker, are interested in starting another cafe meet-up in your area, like to write about KASHA topics, and/or want to protest something... let us know.

KASHA Board Meetings

If you are an official paid member and would like to read our minutes or attend a meeting, please let me know.
The dates of the meetings are on the events calendar. We are trying to meet once a month.
Warning: Our minutes are rather cryptic, but you will probably understand the main clinchers. Any warm new heartbeats detected at the meeting might also be given tasks. But we are not discouraging our members from attending; in fact, we would love it if you could come.
Please Go To our Events Calendar for up to date information on events.
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