The most important thing to remember is that sometimes meetings do need to get changed around. A person needing to change a meeting can do that without breaking down relationship. Based on the example, consider this message instead. “I am so sorry to disrupt your schedule with a last minute meeting change request. Please accept my apology as I ask that we reschedule to next week.” The receiver doesn’t need to know WHY you have had to cancel. What they need to know is that you recognize that you have disrupted their schedule and you seek their understanding.
Defensiveness is NOT TAKING RESPONSIBILITY for your behavior. Simply stop, consider that you are responsible for the action, and seek understanding and consideration.
By the way, people don’t really care WHY you didn’t follow through. They need to know that you acknowledge the challenges it makes for them and express your interest in maintaining your relationship.
Next week, we will wrangle with the next two horsemen: stonewalling and criticism.
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