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 issue 190 ~ week of October 9th, 2020
meet this week's guest editor: Arianna Davis

Note from the (Guest!) Editor


Hola <<First Name>>,

I’m Arianna Davis. By day, I’m the digital director for O, The Oprah Magazine. But I’m also gearing up to release my first book, What Would Frida Do? A Guide to Living Boldlyon October 20. Eep! It’s an ode to the legacy of the iconic Frida Kahlo. Part self-help and part-biography, in addition to telling Frida’s story, it reflects on the many lessons we can learn about the Latina artist’s incredible life—and how she lived so boldly way ahead of her time. 

That said, I’m very happy that I wrote a book about living fully and boldly...before the pandemic hit. Like many of you, I’m sure, I’ve needed all the inspiration I can get to just make it through each day these last few months.

Luckily, while writing and researching about the life of a woman who managed to create some of the greatest art that history has ever known—despite enduring a horrific accident, a tumultuous marriage, and many other life obstacles—I learned a thing or two about living life fully. There are many more takeaways like these in the book, on topics ranging from creativity to love, heartbreak, and friendship. When it comes to taking care of yourself, though, there are three that immediately come to mind: 

1. Love yourself, flaws and all. It was because of circumstance that Frida ended up painting, drawn to the new hobby out of boredom while recuperating from surgeries after a horrific trolley accident at age 18. But after her parents set her up with a mirror and an easel, Frida would go on to paint dozens of self-portraits of herself throughout her lifetime. As the painter of her own portraits, she very easily could have depicted herself through the lens that would have shown a more traditional Eurocentric beauty. Instead, in all of her work, Frida showed off her unique features, including her (what would become infamous) unibrow and mustache. And she wasn’t shy about celebrating her own self, because that was who she knew the best. That’s where that well-known quote comes from: “I paint self portraits because I am so often alone, because I am the person I know best.” 

2. Channel your pain into creativity. In these months where many of us are spending a lot more time than usual at home and/or away from loved ones, I think a lot about how Frida would be handling the feelings of sadness, anxiety, and general malaise many of us have been experiencing over the last 6 months. But it’s from exactly those kinds of feelings—felt most deeply while she was stuck in bed recuperating from various illnesses and surgeries for weeks or months at a time—that Frida painted many of her most moving works. Whether you’re a painter, a writer, or just looking to redecorate your apartment, remember that Frida would have channeled all the negative energy into something beautiful.  

3. Remember: Love is in the details. One of my favorite things I learned about Frida while working on this book is how carefully she curated every single thing in her life. Everything from her dinner table to her body was a canvas. Before serving dinner for herself and Diego, she’d go to the market to find just the right tablecloth and flowers, and carefully arrange the table just-so before serving a meal. And every morning, she’d spend time pulling beautiful flowers from her garden to braid through her hair as the perfect accessory to her outfits (which were often full of symbolism and homages to her Mexican roots). 

I hope these tidbits will inspire you to viva la vida, as Frida put it, and that you’ll find more inspiration in What Would Frida Do? In the meantime, if you need a few other recommendations, here are some things that I do personally to make myself feel a little more cared for: 

🛁 Taking a bath with this bath tray. It holds both your wine glass and a book, and has been responsible for many of my most stress-relieving baths! Throw in some candles and you’re in spa heaven.

📺 Re-watching Girlfriends on Netflix. I have a whole new appreciation for this show now as an adult, and every episode fills me up with delight and laughter.

🧶 Knitting. It’s not just for abuelitas! It’s a stress-reducing hobby that also leads to great Christmas gifts for family and friends (or just yourself!), and it’s something I look forward to breaking out whenever the temperatures begin to turn crisp. If you’re a newbie, I highly recommend trying Wool and the Gang’s chunky blanket kits, which have everything you need to make your first cozy creation. 

‘Tis the season to take care. Enjoy, readers. 

xo, 
Arianna Davis 

Follow Arianna on Instagram and Twitter as she prepares to release her book. You can pre-order it here.

weekly picks


how we're unwinding at home lately
too many pillows? no such thing (via @thejungalow
  1. If you're missing your morning podcast routine... 👩‍💻 "I recently bought this aesthetically pleasing bluetooth/waterproof speaker to keep in the shower for a pick-me-up in the morning, or to listen to a podcast while taking a bath. It's also come in handy for hanging out in the backyard lately." - Alisha, CEO & Founder 
     
  2. A comfort-first weekend breakfast ... 🍳 "Last weekend I made a DIY Breakfast Bowl table with potatoes, squash, chicken sausage, scrambled eggs, cilantro, broccoli, feta, and hot sauce. It hit all the comforting notes I wanted on a Saturday morning in fall. PLUS kabocha squash might just dethrone delicata in my squash power rankings — not quite as pretty when sliced, but it is sweeter." - Carey, Content Team
     
  3. How to celebrate National Book Month... 📖 Step 1) Use Code GNIOCTOBER to get your first hardcover Book of the Month for $9.99 this month. Step 2) Pick which of this month's books you'll start with — we're eyeing The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue because we love a defiant heroine, Leave the World Behind for a modern take on the disaster novel genre, and Ties that Tether for a heartfelt exploration of cultural identity and the pursuit of love. #SPONSORSTHING
  4. The minimalist desk making working from home a little easier... 👩‍💻 "After six months of working from home, I finally caved and bought a desk. My main concern was whether a ~work zone~ would introduce chaos (and cords!) into my home, but this desk from Target matches my minimalist style perfectly." - Jenna, Content Team

  5. If you're looking for a starting point for composting at home.... 🍎 might we suggest this little compost bin that fits perfectly on the counter and helps keep odors at bay? 
  6. An action item you can take this weekend... 🗳 Want to do something to prepare for the election this weekend? Gather a group of trusted friends and distribute all the down-ballot candidates in your area among the group so you can build a voter guide together, make time to catchup, and learn about local races along the way. 
     

    For more recs, follow GNI on Instagram: @girlsnightinclub

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read/watch/listen


how we're keeping busy
here for weekend mornings (via @parachutehome / @moorehisstyle)
 
What we're reading at work (whoops) today: 👀
How to Build a Better Dinner | The New York Times 
How Work Became an Inescapable Hellhole | Wired
The Pandemic Housework Dilemma is Whitewashed | Zora 
It's Okay, You Can Hit Pause on Your Goals Right Now | SELF
Getting Lots of Political Messages on Your Phone? Welcome to the Texting Election | NPR

What we're reading on Indigenous Peoples' Day: 🍃
"Indigenous Peoples' Day is Monday, and I wanted to recommend reading The Red Deal (a climate plan you can read about here!), written by The Red Nation, a coalition of Native community organizers. I’m in a reading group that is reading and discussing the parts of it like a book club. Also, I always learn a lot from following NDN Collective." - Mary Anne, Community Team

Cookbooks we're excited about this month:  🍰
1. Dessert Person by Claire Saffitz
2. Modern Comfort Food by Ina Garten 
3. The Full Plate by Ayesha Curry
4. In Bibi's Kitchen by Hawa Hassan 

The rom-com rabbit hole we're currently going down: 📺
"I watched When Harry Met Sally for the umpteenth time last Friday and then took my fandom one step further by listening to this 2.5 hour-long podcast about it to really nerd out. It dissects everything from the movie's iconic fall wardrobe to the cultural significance of the Sharper Image scene. Plus, it's the first of a mini-series on Nora Ephron's movies, so I'll probably listen to all of those now too." - Tyler, Content Team


All the Things Making Us Smile This Week: 😍
These sweatpants we'll be living in through April. BLOBS as decor. Jennifer Garner's excitement about Ina's new cookbook. These colorful ceramic mugs. This duck that looks like Guy Fieri. New Dusen Dusen sweatsuits in all the coolest patterns. This very helpful guide to which rug size you should get. This take on why BLTs are a breakfast food. And a whole mood, courtesy of Oscar the Grouch. 

heading into the weekend like

an oldie but a goodie (via @spinubzillla
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