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Encouragement. 

Good morning!

2020 has been full of many epiphanies. One of the most poignant for me is permission to stop hustling for my worthiness. 

"When we can let go of what other people think and own our story, we gain access to our worthiness—the feeling that we are enough just as we are and that we are worthy of love and belonging. When we spend a lifetime trying to distance ourselves from the parts of our lives that don’t fit with who we think we’re supposed to be, we stand outside of our story and hustle for our worthiness by constantly performing, perfecting, pleasing, and proving. Our sense of worthiness—that critically important piece that gives us access to love and belonging—lives inside of our story.” (- Brene Brown)

It's hard. 

Finding a new rubric is like learning a new language. I'm planning an immersion program to do just that...learn a language of joy and meaning...in 2021. 

I find myself looking at choices with new eyes:
  • Is that hustle...or ambition?
  • Is that hustle...or desire to impact?
  • Is that hustle...or living into my potential?
And, so I ask, "Is it on my list of the things that give me joy and meaning?" This question is modeled on Brown's own criteria, which she offers in Dare to Lead.

With a new lighthouse, I choose what comes next.

What comes next for you, my friends?
Amy
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Presumption's Half-life


Presumption, according to Merriam-Webster

  • Shameless boldness
  • Something taken as being true or factual and used as a starting point for a course of action or reasoning

For 40 years I thought my mom was overreacting, overprotective, overcautious when she warned me at Christmas cookie season, "Now, Amy, always unplug the hand mixer before you put the beaters in or take them out."

As my fingers lay immobile between those small but mighty beaters last week, I both laughed and cried. Laughed at the realization of my hubris. Recognition of how many other pieces of advice I'd dismissed. And, crying for real - caused by the raw experience of being humbled to my core and at the real pain in my hand.

The wisdom of age is the recognition that what we're just now learning has already been learned. Each of us gets a lifetime to take the lessons and package them for the next generation.

And, isn't ironic that the younger we are, the more apt we are to believe those passing the lessons don't really know.

Yet, what giant steps we could take if each generation didn't need to begin all over again.

Half-life, according to Oxford Languages

  • The time required for any specified property (e.g. the concentration of a substance in the body) to decrease by half

What is the half-life of presumption for human beings? Is mid-life a turning point of wisdom? The moment where we make enough mistakes to realize that we don't actually know what is true anymore? And, we realize the foundation upon which we've built is quite flimsy.

Thus, mid-life is a renaissance not a crisis. Where, with a child's mind, we can look with wonder at the world.

Releasing the assumptions (and presumptions) and begin again.

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Play Bigger in 2021

My coaching partner and pal, Hazel Hoff, and I invite you to a very special experience. On January 9, we are offering a 90 minute, free session to help you define what "Play Bigger" means for you in 2021. Then, new for 2021 --  the Play Bigger Program is now a 4-session experience that starts January 22 (Friday cohort) or January 23 (Saturday cohort).

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Yep, that's me. Snapped by my friend, Brooke, in either Spain or Germany in 1999 or 2000. When she sent me the photo recently, I almost fell off my chair when I realized the headline is now a variation of my business's name. Life keeps bringing me back to this message: Nobody Makes It Alone. I've been coaching a small number of private clients on the weekends. If you've ever wondered if coaching is for you, please get in touch.

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