Colleagues,
I have struggled for much of the past year with how to best respond to the injustice, racism, and the societal inequities that have become such a pronounced aspect of our lives. Events of the past few weeks have furthered my discomfort. Like many of you, I wear different hats throughout the day, and have found myself at a loss when those hats conflict. I have felt the conflict in my role as MePA President. Whether it’s working with state or federal leaders in response to the pandemic or advocating for laws that promote the practice of psychology, I am not sure how to engage or advocate without “being political” or how to make a statement knowing that not all members will agree.
More notably, I have been conflicted in my work with clients (especially those who share beliefs that make me uncomfortable). Despite my best efforts, I’m sure many of my previous supervisors and professors would not approve
of the amount of political or social self-disclosure I have offered over the past few months. I’m sure many of you have experienced similar ethical dilemmas. Knowing how to respond to racist, homophobic, xenophobic, or misogynistic content is not a new problem within our work. However, events of the past year have shed greater light on the extent to which these concerns are still prevalent (pervasive?) throughout our society. When I have erred on the side of over-disclosure, I have kept Martin Niemoeller’s poem (displayed at the New England Holocaust Memorial in Boston) in mind. I have worked to accept that any clinical mistake may be balanced by my adherence to values.
Due to a scheduling mishap, I found myself with few clinical obligations on January 20th and able to watch many of the morning’s inauguration festivities. With these dilemmas in mind, I found myself very moved. The adherence to ceremony felt moving, Amanda Gorman’s poetry was beautiful, the musical performances were superb, and I could not have been happier with Bernie Sander’s wardrobe choice! With all this pageantry, surprisingly the thing that struck me most was a line from President Biden’s speech: “Disagreement must not lead to disunion.”
What a concept!
I will, no doubt, be referencing this line frequently over the upcoming weeks and encourage everyone to look inward and reflect both on how we disagree and the consequences of those disagreements.
And now for something completely different…
My wife and I have started working on an alternative way of settling our disagreements. Whenever we feel that we have reached an impasse - we start a staring contest. It seems to be the only way we can see eye to eye!
Sincerely,
Thomas Cooper, PsyD
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