GIT Tips to help your child become a successful adult✨
Every Hard Moment Is an Opportunity to Learn Resilience
I'm here to reiterate just how important it is for our children to learn how to be resilient in order to find success and overcome the obstacles they will face as a grown-up. If we sweep in to save our children from every bit of difficulty, we actually do them a disservice. We send the message that when life gets tough, someone will always help you out of it and that failure is a scary and negative thing.
In reality, one of the best things we can do for our children is to allow them to struggle because it gives them the chance to build confidence.
ICYMI on Facebook and Instagram, here are some GIT Mom tips to help your child become more resilient.
Love, Eirene
GIT Tip #1
Stop providing constant entertainment
Our daily life of phones and devices and the belief that children need to be involved in a zillion activities prevent our children from being bored. But boredom actually helps develop curiosity and independence, because when kids have a chance to manage their own time and come up with what they want to do or play on their own, they build independence.
Don't give in and rescue your child when he's moaning, "I'm Borrrrred!" Ask your child to come up with ideas and let him know when you'll be free to hang out.
STOP: Buying Random Stuff
Instead: Next time you’re in the Target dollar section, remember GIT Mom says “No, roll on by and do not buy!” You know your child doesn’t need any more toys, but I bet there is something you’d like to buy for Y-O-U!
STOP: Hiding Your Mistakes
Our kids don’t realize that we fail, too. When we open up and share a sucky moment, we are teaching them failure is not a big deal, we are all human and we can always try again.
GIT Tip #3
Becoming resilient is a process
STOP: Expecting Resiliency to Happen Overnight
It's hard to have patience, especially when our children are melting down over the dumbest things. When we get upset or frustrated and try to rush them through these challenging moments, our kids learn that their feelings aren’t safe, and they don’t learn how to effectively take care of themselves when they feel scared, angry, sad, or confused. When I want to go off on a kid I take deep breaths and think about my mantra “You’re a good mom,” which calms me down so I don’t add fuel to the craziness one of the boys is exhibiting.
Do you know someone who could use these #GITMom tips for helping your child build resilience? Please share!
