Happy 2012! I am looking forward to experiencing loads of positive changes in this coming year. My name is Delia Trapuzzano and I am thrilled to be a part of the healing professionals with their practices at the Resiliency Center.

I am a Marriage and Family Therapist. I thoroughly enjoy working with children of all ages and their families. Nothing gives me more joy than being a part of the process of enabling families to enjoy a harmonious family life. Family Therapy is special because problems are never the fault of one person.  A family is a system and whenever the system goes haywire, everyone needs to pull together to be part of the solution. Think about it. If any one of us was stranded alone on a desert island, we wouldn’t have any problems (except for survival, of course). No matter how bizarre a person’s behavior might be, it only comes to light because of the way other people are affected by it. We are all intensely impacted by the people we live with.

This is why I find family therapy so fascinating. A person might grow and make significant changes in his or her life but once they are back in their family system, they seem to revert to their old self. Many people probably noticed that phenomenon when visiting family over the holidays. It’s possible to ignore relational issues or hope things will get better, but if the patterns don’t change, chances are, the problems won’t go away by themselves. Sometimes families need outside help to shine a light on the issues and show each person their role in creating or perpetuating the problem. A family therapist can provide a safe environment to allow each family member to express him or her self and be heard. No matter how “right” a person might be he will not be able to invoke changes in others unless he is prepared to make some changes in himself. 

 

A great first step in making changes is to start with acceptance. 

 

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