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Sprezzatura
-hard made easy

Marriage between not-me and not-you

Just one more chapter of my book 'Just One'.

Today's chapter began as a review of psychological experiments showing how there is no constant or reliable you. From there I stumbled into the topic of marriage, which I had no intention whatsoever to write about. But here I am, letting my stream of consciousness flow over you. Below is a short example of this evening's mad ramblings.
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Who are you marrying if you don't exist?

So, if your personality is imagined, just an ephemeral narrative, a flimsy story made up by your superego, and only relevant in a fixed context, who is the similarly undefined person you are marrying? How is your relationship supposed to last if you don't exist as stable entities.

It’s definitely not practical for an undefined and ever-changing entity to promise an eternal bond to a shape-shifter peer. However, the deep roots achieved through traditions, community, rites of passage, shared (military) hardship, and long-lasting marriage serve a much deeper purpose than bodily love.

We are our context more than we are ourselves (see e.g. Milgram’s torture research, Zimbardo’s prison experiment, Berkely studies on sexual preferences, and Mischel’s amended marshmallow test). No man is an island, but together we can be.

The cells in our bodies form a stable community owing to their very change and deaths. A stone erodes away, but a live body or community are change-resistant thanks to their fleeting constituents.

Marriage is a fractal representation of the overarching holographic principle of sticking together, it's not based on love, lust, or fair-weather friendship; but on commitment, on systemic endurance, and thus on true companionship like when you manifest your particular archetype in your rightful place in the tribe.
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I still plan to make a book out of this. When and how is an open question. For now, however, there is just one more chapter ready.
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Three random thoughts:


1) I make it a point to always put on my socks standing up. It's a gauge on my balance and agility, and a check on my laziness. I suggest you make it your routine too.

2) Listening to The Huberman Lab podcast about headaches today (February 7, 2023), I was reminded of why I drink a sip of my fishoil everyday since at least 15 years (ArcticMed, unfortunately unavailable outside Sweden I think). It's not only preventing inflammation in general, but it can work wonders for headaches too. In the episode, I learned that creatine in high doses is also good for (trauma-induced) headaches, so not just for athletic performance. If you ever experience serious headaches, whether cluster, migraine, tension, inflammatory or other types, I strongly suggest you listen to his latest episode

3) The value of a stock consists of facts like profits, and feelings like the Price/Earnings ratio. The fact might be '5 USD profit per share', and the feeling 'a P/E ratio of 20 times that profit', and thus a share price of 100 USD. Even if the profit fact stays the same, the market's feeling about that fact may change: from P/E 20x now to 10x in a slump, or to 40x or higher during a bull market. Over time, the feelings even out and settle down on average between 15-20x for the average stock, i.e., for the market. Any company with about average characteristics regarding e.g. growth rates sooner or later gravitate to that same P/E multiple of 15-20. Consequently, "All" you have to do is figure out the fact, the profit... Well, I suggest you pay attention the the feelings too. They decide 90-100% of the price swings in time horizons of up to a few years, while facts take over and decide 90-100% of the price swings in periods of one or a few decades (!)

Kind regards,

/Sprezza


P.S. This is just one (more)... somewhat of a commitment, as I said yesterday
P.P.S. If you haven't listened yet, in the meantime you can hear me talk about some of my insights in my two recent interviews in English on Kook Jester and Curious Worldview
P.P.P.S. The English version of The Investing Course (www.finanskursen.se in Swedish) should be done by April or May, so keep a lookout if you're interested in investing and finance. The first year will be about half price for a skeleton course but will give access to the expanded full-price material in the future
 
KARL-MIKAEL SYDING
Hedge Fund Manager
https://antiloophedge.com/
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former Mg Dir, Senior partner and PM at Futuris (Brummer)
The HFR European Hedge Fund Of The Decade (2000-2009) 
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Host of the "Antiloop", "Future Skills", "25 minuter" and "Outsiders" podcasts
Video interview, July 2020
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The fund Futuris received numerous awards, including several HFR Best Directional hedge fund over ten years, and not least European Long Short Equity HF of the year 2008 and HFR's award to The European Hedge Fund Of The Decade 2000-2009 (all categories)
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