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A huge smile, I actually DO believe -
because I know that it works, and that she did a great job.
And still, in a total awe every time the magic happens.
"Yay, you go girl!!" I'm texting back, "You are amazinggggg!!"
What a precious moment,
when your 19 years old son -
who was distant and alienated for years since you and his father got divorced,
disappearing in his own worlds of friends and school and parties and hobbies,
who hardly said a word beyond a distracted "mmm",
reached out only when he needed a ride or a new branded jacket -
is all of a sudden calling just to say a warm 'hi' and share his weekend plans.
'I know that it works'?
What works?
- The way to create a desired reality, from inside out.
After trying innumerous times
to make others do what you want -
to ask, explain, beg, get mad...
without any successful results.
Just frustration, and resentment, and despair.
Keep doing the same things - and getting the same outcomes.
Which are exactly the outcomes you don't wish at all to get.
And this is how she first came to see me,
angry and desperate,
but determined to find a solution,
and willing to try "Anything, I already tried everything. Therapy for both of us, meditations so maybe at least I can relax and accept the situation, incentives and threats, nothing helped. I can't keep going like this anymore".
So we started, like always, from the beginning -
from understanding that there is nothing outside -
the reality is simply a reflection of our unconscious inner world.
That everything is energy,
and everything is connected.
The pure brilliant soul, and the protective ego,
and her individual karmic injury that she is here to heal -
which is responsible for the poor dynamic with her son,
and actually with other people and situations throughout her life.
By learning how to ground herself
and deeply regulate her own emotions,
new possibilities opened.
And we were then able to connect to her most vulnerable part -
her inner child,
to listen to her worries and needs,
and to her son's inner child - his insecurities, fears and hopes.
She was able to see both of them in a new different light,
and break the vicious pattern -
to let go of resentment and disappointment,
release expectations and relax into unconditional trust and acceptance,
and find true compassion and love
to herself and to him.
Then, after a few weeks of dedicated work,
the miracle - which is actually the most normal balanced thing -
happened.
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