Musings on Being Resilient
Happy onset of a beautiful summer!!
I hope that everyone is enjoying the beginning of a new season after a long winter.
I recently posted something about resiliency. That word keeps presenting itself to me. On a personal and professional level. So, I thought I would reflect a bit more on this term, energy and write about it. One of my roles in the therapeutic work I do is to promote, create, cultivate a sense of resiliency within my clients. As an energetic coach, healer..the same.
When the opportunity presents itself, it can imply to some, that there is something we need to be resilent about. In response to. And then to earn the badge of honour called, resiliency. Being named a resilient soul, can feel like a double edged sword to some souls. A label, like any other label. I am strong, I persevere, I move from my wounds. A beautiful thing.
What happens when we are not navigating in a strong way? Do we lose that ‘title’? Do we heap all of our pride around this in a pile and call it quits? Or self sabotage or label ourselves as weak,emotional, or unable to navigate difficult things in life. Sometimes we do. I see it. I hear it in people who talk about…”well I should be stronger. I failed and guess i’m not really as resilient as I thought.”
Resilency at times, can feels like a standard we feel we need to live up to.
Sometimes we don’t want to be resilient. Sometimes we just want to journey through it all and be vulnerable. Sometimes we get tired of being told how resilient we are. At times, some want to hear.. how beautiful your emotions are. How wonderful you are able to feel your way through this, to a place of strength. We also are tired of being up against situations that test our resiliency.
I meet so many people who carry shame for not being strong. Or resilient in life.
Many of them identify as empaths or HSP’s (highly sensitive people). Navigating life in a resilient way as a sensitive, is one of the toughest journeys I have ever had to experience. If you are a feeler, you know this too.
We are all the stuff. All the pain, joy, love, feeling, strength, weakness, resiliency. All of it, in any given time. You are resilient by virtue of being born and here. You are strong because you are. Because you feel and live life.
So, if there are days where your sense of resiliency is in the ditches, let it be ok.
If someone says your are resilient, let it be ok for times you are not. It’s ok. You are also resilient, when you are not.
This summer, gives yourself the gift of just Being.
Be well.
x
